Hello...Ok, I'm bisexual, but I realised it after I started dating my first and only boyfriend. I love him very much, we've even talked of living together in the future...I've never met someone so respectful, such a great listener, such a good friend. I never thought you could have a crush on someone when you felt that way for someone else. Thing is, I recently realized I have my first crush on a girl. I would be an idiot to leave my boyfriend for her, since she's even told me "if you were a guy, I'd date you". Besides, she's a bit of a slut... its basically infatuation. But it got me thinking: I can easily see myself with my boyfriend for the rest of my life...but its hard for me to imagine living the rest of my life without ever kissing a girl. I don't want to hurt my boyfriend, but if the opportunity to be physically involved with a girl, at least once, were to arrise, I'd love to take it. How do I go about this? God, this may sound silly, but I don't know what to do. P.S: I'd like to add that what I mean with the "opportunity to be physically involved with a girl" doesn't mean just any girl, it means with a girl that I share an attraction for, not just some random girl at a party. That opportunity may not come around any time in the near future
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Before you do anything with anyone else, make sure you're level with your boyfriend. Different sexes or not, bringing in a new partner to a formerly exclusive relationship is often called cheating, and can lead to many burned bridges and problems in the future.
There aren't many differences between a heterosexual relationship and a homosexual one--there's still love, attraction, and all the other things that go with that. So carefully consider all of that.
If you want to experiement with girls, by all means do so, but make sure you care for the heart and wellbeing of your boyfriend. Either make sure he's okay with an open relationship, or break it off with him.
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