I need help with my self esteem. my friends tell me I'm pretty, and nice, and smart, but sometimes I feel like they're just saying that because they're my friends. I really want a boyfriend. I know that I shouldn't need a guy to define me, but I'm in band, and when I go there (it's a big part of my life), almost everyone is paired off. I don't feel like I'm smart enough, or pretty enough, or nice enough. I know that I'm very loud, but I just can't help it! soenmtimes I feel like I'm too obnoxious, though my friends say I'm never like that. almost every guy I've liked for over 2 days has had a girlfriend. I feel like I'm setting my standards too high. I don't know what I'm planning on gaining from this post, maybe someone could tell me how they get guys to like them or something, I don't know.
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Guys aren't accessories. They aren't things for you to wear. They are people and you need to treat them as such.
No one can make you feel better about yourself. You need to do that for yourself. Having a boyfriend can be fun but it doesn't make you a better person. You're still you ... with a boyfriend.
Start small with your self-esteem building. Everyday, look in the mirror and tell yourself 5 things you like about yourself. Write them down if you have to. Think you're pretty good at your musical instrument? Then say so. Like the way your hair looks today? Then take a moment to enjoy it. And so forth.
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