I went to Homecoming with a friend of mine and not with my boyfriend..( bad start huh?) well he graduated already and well I thought I just go with a friend. I am senior and he's a sophmore. I didnt think there was anything wrong with that. Well I go to Homecoming and he tried holding my hand and I kept making excuses that I couldnt hold his hand like putting my hair up, moving my hair out of my face, fixing my dress...etc. Well, he would just grab my hand so I wouldnt lose him in the crowd. Well, it just so happends that I see my boyfriends cousin ( who I've been cool with since middle school) and he gives me dirtest look ever!!! I was just woundering what was wrong with him. Anyways, next thing you know my bf calls and says " what's that about you holding that fools hand?" and I said " You know whatI want to deal with this, can you met me somewhere?" since there was gonna be so much drama! Well, I leave my date, leave with my bf and we argue. He tells me he dosent want to break up with me and I said well you do have a reason and told me that he'll tell me the answer once I get home...then he says that he loves so much and cares for me and still want to be with me. Ok, I am still with him but he said he's not ever gonna forget about that and seriously I just want to get over this and forget about it. Also, it ruined my relationship with his cousin who I was real cool with. I just dont know what to do. I m afraid to go to school seeing his cousin and everything sayig how messed up it was. What should I do about this????
Posts: 16 | From: vista CA , USA | Registered: Oct 2005
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You should tell them both to RELAX! Would they have been reacting like this if you were holding hands with another woman? I mean, this guy was your date ... Doesn't have to be a romantic date, but how are you expected to dance with your date (one of the key points of having a date, isn't it?) if you can't touch him?
Seriously, it sounds like your BF and his cousin are being a little immature. Sure at first glance it may appear that somethings' wrong, but everything's been explained now, and everything should be fine. I don't understand what the problem is.
Furthermore, his cousin did his 'job' and alerted your BF of what was going on ... And now it's none of his/her business. If s/he says anything to you about it, you can tell them as much.
Other than that, i don't really have much advice ... I don't think you did anything wrong and i think your boyfriend got his 'patnies in a twist' over nothing.
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