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Esmeraldah17
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My boyfriend is just a pig! He burps in front of me, he dosent have any manners.Like one time he bought me a cheeseburger, fries and a lemonade...I told him I was going to eat it once I got home ( since he wasent eating I felt uncomfertable to eat in front of him) so... I was just there sitting in the car and then the next thing you know he just gets my lemonade and starts to drink it! Then he started eating my fries without saying anything! I just dont like that you know and then he breath does smell and I am such a gum freak I always have to have gum with me cause I feel like my breath smells good but he dosent! I just dont know how to tell him and how to make him have more manners!
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DarkChild717
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You know, all humans creat gas. It has to exit somehow. Burping and farting are rather natural, and not something to really panic about.

He did buy the food for you, so he is entitled to a taste. You said you'd wait. Perhaps he should have asked, but again, that's nothing to really panic over.

If he truly has no manners, such as poor table manners and such, you can talk to him about it in a non-confrontational way.


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Gumdrop Girl
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Well,, if you want him to lcean up, act now. the longer you let it go, the uglier it gets and the harder it is to change. Personally, I don't think it's too much to ask that he have some manners. I'm a big fan of manners, actually. It makes society more pleasant.

Start by politely saying, "Excuse you," if he blasts gas like a neanderthal. Polite people excuse themselves, so if he asks, just tell him so. And next time he has a major etiquette violation, correct it immediately. don't wait to bring it up later because he'll either forget it, or think you've been dwelling way too long on it.

Offer him gum or mints. If he doesn't take the hint, offer again. It's not pleasant kissing someone with nasty breath.

And lastly, tell him you want to clean up just a little. Tell him you like and you care about him, but these things bother you, and it's not a huge deal to improve certain hygiene habits. But bear in mind, his uncouth behavior may be a sign that he's comfortable around you. Maybe too comfortable. That's not a bad thing. But some people deal with it by "letting themselves go" so to speak. Don't scare him into being unable to be himself. just take care of the major offenses and let the little things (like elbows on the table or pinkies and teacups) go 'cause they're not worth the fight.

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ya
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Create him.
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LilBlueSmurf
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ya,

Your posts here have been a little less than helpful. One liners like 'create him' don't really give us a lot of insight into what the heck it is you're talking about. It's frustrating. If you don't have time to write something we can understand, please refrain from responding at all.


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Zander
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( what the heck is "ya" talking about???)

well Esmeraldah17, like stated before, the longer you wait the harder it will be to break the habits he has. but if you dont like those habits then just tell him, dont let it build up inside you or you will probibly explode on him.
and i agree, gas is normal but, we as civilized people CAN say pardon me, or excuse me, or at least open a window and let some fresh air in when he lets one RIPP! because thats still rude.


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Leni
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Uh... I can understand you there girl!

The first boyfriend I had had absolutely no table manners. And it really made me angry! It was like, we're eating at the university cafeteria, with a whole bunch of napkins in front of him, and I tell him he's got something on his chin. You'd think he'd take one of the tons of napkins that were there... nop. Stick his tongue out, lick it off... it was just disgusting -_- or he would just start talking with his mouth full.

I started by offering napkins before I said anything, and sometimes he took the hint, sometimes he didn't. I was nice first about the eating with his mouth full, but he wouldn't listen, so when he did that, I ignored him. Or just said over to him *swallow*.

In time he sort of got it. I don't know how he's doing now after two and a half years.

Keep it up

Love,
Leni

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