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jakimboor
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a friend of mine has a friend who i really like. i want to get to know her and would really like to go out with her but i don`t really know what to do. i think it´s a bit awkward because it´s not as if i just meet someone knew and ask for her number. i think the best thing would be to tell my friend to tell her, though sometimes that sort of thing is not such a good idea, some think it's too rash or whatever. what do you think i could do?
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I'm not a big fan of things like "tell Bobby to tell Suzy to tell Sally that I like her" but I definitely think you could get your friend to help you out here. How about inviting both your friend and your friend's friend to hang out together sometime? Tell your friend that you're interested in his/her friend and want to get to know her better, and if s/he could ask her to come along. Then see how it goes and afterwards you could be like "this was fun and, [friend's friend of interest], I'd like to spend more time with you in the future, one-on-one, how 'bout ______?" Good luck

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thank you for your comment... i think that´s a good way to go. I´m kinda doubtful about this because sometimos i feel that this person is a bit out of my league. I don´t know if you´ve ever had that feeling… i for one, am quite confident with girls but soimetimes there are some whom i feel are sort of different and a bit too much. I know that sounds really stupid, but maybe if anyone could comment on this...have you ever felt like this? What do you do you do to stop feeling that way and to reassure yourself? The thing is, and i know this sounds very high-school cliche, the girl i like is really “popular” and i´m not…i´m confident about myself but sometimos i feel we´re just too different and it would not work out….even though i know i like her….any post would be great thank you all
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Try not to focus on who her friends are so much, but instead on who she is. If you treat each other as people, rather than as representatives of a social group, then no one is "out of your league". Of course, you may find that you have little in common, but that could happen even in your own social group. Think of it this way: by dating outside your social circles, you are actually making your life easier, because you don't really have anything to lose if it doesn't work out. Good luck!

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quote:
Originally posted by jakimboor:
a friend of mine has a friend who i really like. i want to get to know her and would really like to go out with her but i don`t really know what to do. i think it´s a bit awkward because it´s not as if i just meet someone knew and ask for her number. i think the best thing would be to tell my friend to tell her, though sometimes that sort of thing is not such a good idea, some think it's too rash or whatever. what do you think i could do?

I was in somewhat of a similiar situatin the best thing to do is to confront this girl yourself.Ya friend can help but its best if u say something to her first. trust me i rather have a guy to confront me than his friend


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