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So the homecoming dance is tomorrow night.

I had made plans with my friend and her other friends to go out to dinner at a certain place. Plans changed and now we're eating at a mall restaurant(not my idea of good food or fun). She also wants to meet at her house, way out of the way (45 minute drive from my house), before the dance. She also made a big deal out of reservations and how many people were allowed to eat at the table.

My boyfriend was not going to the dance until two nights ago I found out he decided to come. So we made sorta plans to go out to dinner with his friend and his date since we all can't be added to the reservations, nor does everyone know everyone.

My problem is trying to balance my friends and my boyfriend. I don't know how to tell my friend that her plans aren't going to be fun for me and I want to be with my boyfriend too. I will be with her during the dance and after when we go bowling. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but how can I tell her in a way that she won't get angry?

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Unfortunately, I think your friend will be a bit upset no matter how you put it. So just be honest. Tell her you don't think the mall would be much fun. Tell her you've made alternate plans for dinner, but you'll see her at the dance.

Is your homecoming formal? If it is, I see no reason that you should not go to a nice resturant for dinner before hand. I've always considered that part of the experience.

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I agree with Darkchild. First and foremost, you should worry about your best interests. If you don't feel comfortable with the idea of a mall restaurant, don't go. Your friend will forgive you if she really is a friend.
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