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Rage
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I like older guys and it is freaking my friends out. I think Christopher Walken, Terrance Stamp, and Willem Dafoe (actors) is sexy. I also like my brothers co-worker who is 12 years older than me and I'm having pretty strong feelings for my TEACHER, he is exactly like me just male and a lot older. I just want to give my virginity to both of them. But their older? Any advice?
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Yes.

Don't, for their sake. If they did anything with you, and someone found out, they would be in MAJOR trouble with the law. If you care, stay away.

Also, I don't think it's normal to feel attracted to... uh... help... Miz Scarlet... or someone?


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Everyone has preferences. Your preferences happen to side with the older side of our population.

You failed to mention your age, but you need to check with your local authorities as to what the age of consent is. If you are under it, they have the potential of being convicted as sex offenders. That's never a good thing

If you are, however, over the age of consent, I see nothing wrong with being attracted to an older man. Though, you might want to think about what an older man would see in a younger woman. That's not ment to offend, but sometimes the reasons aren't as innocent as they may seem.


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Rage
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Thanks, I'm 17 and our consent age is 14. The reason I am attracted to these guys is because one is exactly like me and the other is what probably will be like someday. I guess I should probably stay away from my teacher till I graduate in June, but he is perfect for my needs and is exactly like me, if not better.
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Yes, at 14 you can have sex with anyone else over the age of 14 in Canada. However, your teacher must not have sex with you. If found out, and it usually is, your teacher will loose his teaching certificate and may face criminal procedings and procedings in front of the teacher's union for highly unethical conduct.

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Rage
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Even after I graduate?
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While I don't know if the legal ramifications still hold after graduation, the ethical ones still do. He was your teacher and there is no way his peers or supervisors will look well on him for dating former students.

It's simply not ethical for an adult, especially one in a postion of power or influence such as a teacher, to use his or her contact with teens as a dating pool. Imagine how parents will feel about their child taking a class with someone dating a former student not much older than their child?


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Heather
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And just an FYI?

Ethics and legality aside, it'd be pretty unlikely for your teacher to have the same sort of feelings about you, even some time down the road.

Generally, as an educator, your students sort of become frozen in your brain as the age they were when you taught them, so even ten years later in the game, what you're going to be seeing is the awkward kid who gawked at you in your class, not the adult they are now.

And for the most part, there's just no sexy there: when you're a teacher students are students, not dating fodder. And when you're a full-grown adult, with your head in the right place (for the most part, again), you just don't see your teenage students as sexual beings on par with where you are as an adult. Whether that's nature or nurture, that's just generally how it goes.


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