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I had my first boyfriend this summer, on a group trip to Costa Rica. Neither of us knew each other when we first went on the trip, but we spent a lot of time together talking(on bus rides, in the rainforest) and we became close pretty fast. We were "together" the last half of the trip, about two weeks, but then decide to end the romantic part of our relationship when the trip ended. We live on opposite ends of the country, and it would just be way too hard to have a LDR for both of us.However, after returning to the US, we communicated frequently thru email and the phone. We would always talk at least once a week. Now though... it's been two weeks since he emailed me back, and I'm wondering... should I email him and ask him what's up? Or should I just let him drift out of my life... That's not what I want... but I don't want to drag out a relationship (even a friendship) if he wants to move on.

I still care about him more than a friend, but try to treat him just as a friend (avoid saying I miss you over and over!). I want him to be happy, and I want to be happy... and I'm also wondering if maybe continuing to email him (and investing my happiness in his reply) is preventing me from moving on. It's just I want him in my life. Should i tell him that? Does that seem too needy? Now that I'm back to being single, my insecurities and fears of rejeection have returned...*sigh*. Should I force myself to move on and not email him agian, or do email him and tell him how I feel, or email him but not tell him how I feel (the hurt part at least?) Is two weeks a long time to wait for an email reply? It feels like forever to me... but then I guess I don't have the best perspective on the matter... any advice would be appreciated. Thanks .

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I see nothing wrong w/ emailing him or calling him. Him not replying to your email for a few weeks could mean nothing more than he's just been really busy lately.

I wouldn't continue writing if you continue to get no response though.

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