i recently started college, and my bf (who i've been with for almost 3 months) goes to a different school half an hour away. a few days ago, i met this other guy who's really nice (and insanely good looking). so here's the thing: i admit that i kinda have a crush on this new guy. i don't know if i would trust myself not to do anything with him. i don't want to be a cheater, but at the same time i do kinda wanna hook up with this guy. so what do you think?
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This should be a no-brainer. If you are in a relationship, you owe it to yourself and your boyfriend to be a responsible partner and resist flirting and hooking up. If you are not happy in your relationship, than you need to talk to your boyfriend.
Have you and your partner set limits on your relationship, since it is (relatively) long distance? If not, you might want to think about it. It'll give you and your partner an idea of what is and isn't OK with one another.
Honestly, this same kind of thing just happened to me and I didn't make the honorable decision. I went behind my boyfriend's back and spent time with the other guy, talking and kissing.. all that. My boyfriend and I broke up (unrelated reasons, believe it or not; he doesn't even know) and I feel a lot less guilty about it, but you have to really step back and look at yourself and your relationship first.
You need to figure out what is more important to you.. the relationship you have or the possibility of another one. Don't make the decision I made. It isn't honest and it isn't right. You need to work it out for yourself and be honest about how you feel.
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