Here's the deal, in my group of friends, there's one who is always going off and dissapearing.
In my city, there are countless registered sex offenders and others we know have yet to be caught. Also, there are people who will kill in cold blood. There was a shooting two streets away from my house in broad daylight earlier this week.
That being said, it should be plain to anyone that it is unsafe for a curvy teenage girl to be wandering off alone and without telling anyone. Tonight, when we were all hanging out, wewent walking and she wandered off again. For half an hour, he didn't answer when we called for her annd wouldn't answer her cell phone. Needless to say we were worried.
After the half-hour, she juist kind of showed up out of nowhere. She won't tell us where she went or why she didn't tell us she was going anywhere. When we asked about her ignoring our calls and yells, she just shrugged us off. The two girls that have known her for years ended up screaming at her and crying, but she didn't care.
Any ideas on how to get through to her or at least convince her to be a little more sensiiblle?
wow ugh i really dont know but just be upfront with her and tell her that she really needs to kinder to people because people, her friends care for her very much and that they worry about her safety especially in times of danger. Just be friendly to her tell her the truth of how you feel thats usually the best way to confront things
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Posts: 60 | From: Bonita, California, United States | Registered: May 2005
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Normally I would say talk to her, but since that doesn't seem to be working...is there any way you could pound it in to her head how dangerous it is?
To me, she doesn't sound like a very good friend if you say you're worried about her and she doesn't care. And her friends are crying and screaming and she doesn't care. Do you really want a friend like that? I wouldn't.
Being upfront has never helped in the four years I've known her, so I doubt it will now. As for her being a good friend, we've been through alot together, all of us, and it's not very easy to give up on her. She cares about the rest of us, it's herself she doesn't care about.
Posts: 52 | From: Seabrook, TX | Registered: Jun 2005
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If it's really herself she doesn't care about, I'd work on that and eventually she'll care about herself enought to stop walking off.
She sounds like a smart girl. Really, this isn't about her intelligence. It sounds like she gets a kick about getting everyone to worry about her.
What I would tell the "group" to do is simply not to say anything when she leaves, nor when she comes back. Unless she's going off to buy drugs or something, it sounds like she's doing this specificly to get a reaction. She likes the attention. Stop giving her the reaction, and she'll be less likely to try to acquire it that way. Try giving her attention for other things, so she won't feel the need to take stupid risks to acquire it.
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