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TI83Plus
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Well my girlfriend recently moved a couple states away from me. Everything was near perfect and we were both so in love. Its been about a month since she has been gone and in that month we talk constantly. Its the summer and plus she doesnt know anyone up there. So things are really boring and we only find each other interesting. Well, to make a long story short, pretty much out of no where, my girlfriend tells me she cant do it. The long distance is killing her so she is forcing herelf out of love with me. She said we are not over completely, but she just wants to take a break and consider us broken up. She said she might change her mind in a couple days, which she hasnt so far. I find this very hard to deal with. I still want to talk to her, etc. She has recently met 2 guys at her local mall she hangs out with all the time. They pick her up almost everyday and they hang out at the mall and stuff. She rarely calls me unless I tell her I want to talk and she seems just plain annoyed with me lately for no reason. She said on top of the long distance thing, she just has a gut feeling she should break up with me. I dont see how she is willing to lose everything over a gut feeling. She called me last night because she wanted to hear my voice. She said she really does love me more than I think she does. She said she will make it up eventually. She acted like we were still going out. We talked like we used to, with fun and games and jokes and it was absolutely great. This morning, she wakes up and doesnt want to talk to me again. She sat home watching TV and never called. Now she is at the mall with her two new friends.

I want to try and convince her that the distance is ok. We will be able to see each other occaisionally. She considers herself a weak person and says she just doesnt think she can do it. I want to prove her wrong. I know that if she tells herself she is strong, she can do it. I know she loves me. She just doesnt want to go through a little pain which I bet we will both get used to after a while. But I want her back so bad. I want her to realize things will be ok. I honestly think she is just a little confused right now. She doesnt know what to do. I dont know either. Please help.

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MichelleKay13
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I think that if you really loved her you'd let her start her life again. I understand that you want to talk to her but long-distance relationships are always hard on everyone involved. If you're willing to make the trips - often - and are willing to put in a whole lot of time... then go for it.

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TI83Plus
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That is the thing. I am willing to do that. And I just think its horrible for love to die because someon thought it needed to. So they forced themselves out of it. We have a pretty unbelievabel history that I have never posted on these boards, and it isnt worth throwing away because she moved. Also remember that we have ALWAYS been long distance to an extent from day 1. She lived about 2 hours from me and we only saw each other maybe once a month. Everything worked out fine then. But now we will see each other once every couple months. So things have no changed drastically. But I love her and I am willing to do whatever it takes.

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It takes two to be in love, so no matter how much you love her, if she's resisting it's not going to work out. Likely, she's trying to protect herself from pain that she feels will inevitably come later. Try talking to her and see if you can convince her that you think it really can work long distance. If it's not working, perhaps you could attend a college close to wear she lives and try again.
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