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His_Lil_Angel
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Well i have been talking to my friends about my ex (Of whom i really care for etc) and i need to tell him how i feel because he has been sending me mixed signals for a while now and they said i should phone him but i dont know what i could say id feel a bit of an idiot dong it but it has to be done because this is where it either starts or ends forever .. any help most appreciated ..x..
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weirdo_freak
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All I can say is that you need to tell him in person not over the phone. It shows that you are more of a person and shows that you care enough about him to be straight foward.
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Keitel
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The one thing you've left out is how you actually feel about him.

If you want a relationship, look at what happened last time, where it went wrong, the strengths, the weeknesses and the quirks, look at what you should be trying to do differently next time.

If you do talk to him with the intention of getting back with him, be honest and open about your feelings, but tell him where you think last time could have gone better, apologise for anything on your lists which is your fault, mention anything you'd want him to do differently and then ask if he feels the same way.

This might be hard in person, but overall it's probably a good idea to keep it personal and face to face. Ideally, you should stand a little further away that you'd normally be comfortable with, as that will put a less confrontational or desperate tone to what you're saying (not that it is either, but we guys are notorious for reading social situations the wrong way).

Lay _all of your cards_ on the table, face up, declare what you have, then see what he's willing to put down.


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MichelleKay13
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Well, don't do it over the phone and definately don't have a friend tell him.

But what the others have left out is that not everyone can just do it. I understand becuase I'm seriously shy.

Anyway, my suggestion would be to talk to him a lot. Make casual conversation...in other words get to be his friend (if you aren't already). Anyway, once you get past that you'll be able to him how you feel simply because you'll feel more comfortable around him and he might be more interested in you after getting to be your friend (again?)

Sorry, that's my advice with the info I got.

<3 MK


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