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sexy_diva
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Hi,umm I would like to ask yall a question about my boifriend ok he tells me he loves me but when i ask him how does he feel about me he says I ask too many questions and then he said he can't open up to me like I want him to.And like 2 days ago I told him to call me when he knows what he want and how he feels about me.So wats his problem with tha questioning thing?And was I wrong for saying call me when u know?thank you plzz get back soon

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JamsessionVT
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Here's the thing, you gotta lay out the trust factor in a relationship like this. Asking "how do you feel about me?" or "do you love me?" over and over when they've already told you is going to cause some annoyance. It's hard to open up to someone who is constantly questioning your feelings for them, because you completely lose that trust factor, not to mention it screams insecurity. I understand it can be very satisfying emotionally to hear your sweetie say "I really care about you" or "I love you" whenever you ask, but honestly, it can get very irritating.

So, why I understand why you said to call him, this is something you need to go to him about, not visa verca. It may be that he is irritated by your questioning, that he maybe feels you are forcing him to open up, or that he just doesn't feel the way you do. That's something we can't answer, you're going to have to go to him about that.


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gubblebum
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If you need constant reassurance that he loves you, then maybe you should take a long look at yourself and your self-esteem before you get too emotionally involved in a relationship. Love yourself before you try to love others.
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