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ilovehayden
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ok me and my boyfriend as u can see in my other forum ..idk . But not only is he in on the i love you stuff , but he always wants to do "stuff" as in sexual activity stuff we r only 14 and im not as secure with my body has he is..i guess he could be too and just not telling me..but he always tries stuff..and i feel like i keep blowing him off when he does it...i would like to do that sorta stuff with him but i just feel soo insecure about my body ..not being around him that makes me so insecure..just i always think this. He knows iv never done really anything like this with other guys..so its not like he thinks im some expert at this. And he is more i guess u could say experienced than me but idk..and i know you will probably say "well u should do it when you feel like it or when u feel comfortable" well i wanna do it now...just when we get to that point...i freeze and dont wanna do it...i have seen his u know what and touched it...but he wants to pleasure me back in return...and it kind of scares me...so is there anything u can tell me to over come this

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hot4nerds
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You say you want to, but you feel insecure about yourself and your body. I'm going to tell you what you don't want to hear, but it is probably best if you do wait until you are comfortable about yourself and your body.

Doing intimate things with your boyfriend shouldn't make you feel uncomfortable, and maybe he thinks if he says "I love you" it means now it is okay to do that sort of thing. There is such a thing as loving someone without any physical love. People do it, it is possible.

But the people here are only to give you some advice and try to be helpful, only you though can decide what you will and won't do.


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Gumdrop Girl
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check out what i told ophelia http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum3/HTML/006260.html and follow the same advice as it totally applies in your case, too.

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