I've noticed something about myself and my boyfriend during the past year we've been dating one another. That is, in the way we carry out an arguement.
I like the talk things out the minute an arguement begins to arise. I want to analyze what's going on and work things out right then and there. My boyfriend, however, is the complete opposite. When we start to fight, he simply walks away and refuses to talk. After some time he'll be okay enough to discuss things. Thus, this is my problem.
I don't know if he's simply having a bad and moody day or if he's angry because my mum won't allow me to go to an amusement park 2 hours away with him and some friends on the final day of school. Maybe it's both. Either way, he's pissed at me now. He just, moments ago, dropped something off at my house and, when I gave him the news, he stormed off back to his car. I, of course, chased after him, hoping to reconcile things before he left in a huff. When he wouldn't talk to me, I stormed inside.
When we're fighting and he leaves without speaking about matters, I find myself antsy and wanting nothing but to talk things out. I know I should wait, but it's so hard to sit around and do nothing while I know he's pissed at me. Usually this causes even more anger on his part, because I seldom am able to stop from trying to contact him at least once post arguement. I just sent him an email explaining that I'm sorry he's having a bad day, how he shouldn't be pissed about the trip because it doesn't mean he can't go, and that I hope he's feeling better.
My question is, how do I stop this feeling or what can I do about it?
Edited to update:
Yea, well, I wait a day to call him and see if things were okay. I didn't know what to say and he basically yelled at me for calling and not having anything to say. Blerg. I feel bad for pestering him, although my mum says I shouldn't because it's his responsability to tell me he needs his 'alone time,' not yell at me when I attempt to cheer him up. What are your thoughts? o__O
[This message has been edited by Rally (edited 05-28-2005).]
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