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Pooky
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Okay, so I just kissed someone for the first time tonight - my boyfriend of three months. I keep hearing all this hoopla about how its just fantastic, so I have a question. Are you supposed to feel some extreme emotion or something extra special when you kiss someone? Cause I didn't feel like "wow, this is incredible!", or at least not yet. Im just wondering, is the first kiss supposed to be extra spectacular? Or do they grow over time? thanks!
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I dunno. I suppose who, why, and how might be important (as well as your surroundings).

I actually botched my first kiss -- it was more funny and jokey than anything else.

You shouldn't make any expectations of something like that. It will reveal itself quickly enough.


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King
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well i dont know about any one else but when i kiss my girl friend i feel nothing but love and i can feel it physicly aswell in my chest and it kind of tickles.... i guess it will depend on if you realt love him, but of coarse you probibly wont feel what i fell but you shoudl feel some thing good when you kiss.

hope i helped


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It's different for everyone, but physically I think don't think kisses are very different from one another. I think it's the meaning and emotion that you attach to them that makes them feel different. Often the first kiss is a big buildup for many people because they're very nervous and excited, but it is only a meeting of lips.

Were you very nervous? Were you ready?

However you felt about the kiss at the time probably affects how you feel, looking back on it. But it's not supposed to be any particular way, each kiss is individual.

For me, my first kiss (ever) wasn't very special because I wasn't very much into the guy I shared it with. But with my current beau, each kiss has been spectacular, from the first kiss to the 2000th. That's why I think it's the love behind the kiss that affects how I remember it.


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Barbarosa
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First kisses are kind of like the first puff off a cigarette. Smokers that can remember the first deeply inhaled drag might wonder why they ever went and had another because it really makes you sick. Kissing is like that in how your initial expectations may be high, but the experience may prove to be a bit of a let down. If I can remember that far back, for me it may have been like the effects of tobacco also in that I was so nervous I may have been a bit queezy too. Happily I do not smoke anymore, but I certainly have not given up kissing.

In relationships, especially early on (and often later) we may be worrying about “am I kissing good” or “I wish he/she wouldn’t do that” or “Oh Gross”!, or “was that my parents…” These distractions can make the experience a little less than fireworks going off, if you know what I mean. And sometimes there just isn’t that chemistry, which can be a bummer.

I promise you this; under the right circumstances with the right person you will know the feeling when it hits. It is not hard to recognize. Sort of like all those other thoughts are not there and your brain, heart, and body just go “oh wow!” Personally I would say the experience is rather thrilling.

Hmm, that all sounded a little like I must be a romantic at heart, but I will let the statements stand.


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Pooky
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Thanks for all of your replies! Looking back on it, I feel fluttery and I think "wow...I can't believe that actually happened", and yes, I do love him very much, as we have been friends for a very long time. I definately feel chemistry, but I think it has to do with what Barbarosa said - theres always some kind of constant thought nagging in my head, like "I wonder what hes thinking" etc. But without distraction, all is well! Thanks!
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well the first time that i kissed someone, i wasn't dating him but i am going tobe truthfull. I got really turned on! I don't know if i am the only one but that is how i felt.
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my first kiss was so awkward! it was a peck on the lips when i was in grade 8. his lips were all chapped and i didn't want to keep kissing him!
my first kiss that lasted for more than a second was good at the time, although the guy was sort of my friend and it ended up ruining our relationship because it meant more to him than me. but it sure turned me on at the time!
the next "significant" kiss was my first with my current boyriend. i "made the first move" and it was his first kiss. very very wet and sloppy and all over the place! kind of gross actually.. but practice makes perfect! (trust me on that one.)
so how your first kiss makes you feel really doesn't mean that much in my opinion. its all about the other person.

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I've lurked on this board sometime, but today I felt like registering and posting a comment.

I had my first kiss about an hour ago. I haven't stopped crying since. Not in a bad way, just in a nervous way. I can totally understand what the original poster of this message was feeling. It's so frightening, but amazing. Oh my gosh.


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i always hate first kisses with new guys. every guy kisses differently, & so u have to adjust to how they kiss. but when i kiss my boyfriend or a guy i really like, i get "butterflies" in my stomach. its like a nervous feeling, but i love it! whenever i kiss a guy that im not interested in, i dont really feel anything. i think its fun to kiss people, but its more fun to kiss people u really care about!
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Pooky
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okay, thanks so much for all your replies, again! Now I at least know that those initial feelings were normal, and its who you're with anyway that matters.
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I see this is quite an older post but I thought I'd voice my opinion.

I am 17 years old and will be 18 in 2 months. I have my first real boyfriend and got my first kiss back in November (after 2 weeks of being with him) I too heard that it was something to look forward to.

I was nervous and excited all at once. But the first kisses weren't entirely great, for onc because I was inexperienced and he was experienced.

Over time, the kisses got better. They went from just making out for fun (which we still do) to having some real emotion. They have all become enjoyable to me. The kind I love the most is when we're just staring into each others eyes and then there are eventually soft and sweet kisses that follow.

There's a lot you can tell about how a person is feeling judging by how they kiss you, so I've learned

Hope things are getting easier for you now.


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Lol.....the first time I kissed someone, it was nasty and I was like "YUCK! this is what kissing is?" because it was unexpected and I was going for his cheek and he went for my lips and he just slobbered all over me! YUCK!!! I was grossed out, but then after, it got WAY better and you just get used to it, and start feeling good. I guess you just have to get the hang of it and feel comfortable with each other.
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well wen i had my first kiss it was kind of special cuz its ya first kiss. it felt like i was on the top of the world....it mite not always b like that 4 every1..as long as u luv the person ya kissing n havin them luv u bak that just makes it that much special!!
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I hated my first kiss I didn't really like the guy to begin with He basically just stuck his tongue in my mouth while I tried to figure out what all the fuss was about. I spent the next week try to clean my mouth I could just feel his tongue all the time
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Pooky
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haha yeah looking back on it first kisses are nothing compared to whats to come. Me and my boyfriend just broke up and he was my first kiss, and now I cant even comprehend kissing anyone else, or it even feeling the same way. Im sure its not true but its kinda...disturbing me. But I wonder, will kissing someone new be just like your first kiss all over again? Im excited yet reluctant to find out ; )
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