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I'm not sure where this goes but...
When me and my girlfriend kiss I don't close my eyes. People say you should close your eyes and I don't. I mean I never really realized it before,but it makes me wonder if it is wrong to do. So should I be closing my eyes when we kiss?

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Some people find it sensual to keep their eyes open when they kiss. Some find it more comfortable and relaxing to close their eyes.

Really, there is no right or wrong way to do this. It's a preference. Try both and see which one you like best. If you like both, alternate!

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I close my eyes because something that close strains them, and causes pain. Why would I want kissing to hurt?

It often involves a lot of laughing and giggling too, so I instinctivley close my eyes for that.

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As Applefritter said, it's a personal preference thing. Does it make your girlfriend uncomfortable? If you and her both don't mind, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it.
Sometimes I'll kiss with my eyes open. Whatever feels the most natural at the time.


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i do both. sometimes i like to see the girl i'm kissing and her facial expressions/reactions. other times i just like to close my eyes and lose myself in the moment. as said before, it's all in personal preference.
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well...the reason why people close their eyes while kissing is because there's a sensory overload - the kissing coupled with an up-close look of your partner can sometimes be a bit overwhelming. but it's certainly not weird or anything if you don't close your eyes.
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It is a matter of "how you like to do it" wich ranges from one person to another i like to close my eyes and just get lost in the moment but i just open my eyes a bit sometimes for guidence(for a first time kisser this would be a good idea)
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Well, I for one shut my eyes but you should do whatever feels natural for you
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and maybe cutting off the sensory input from one sense into the brain can heighten the others?
so if your eyes are closed your other senses of smell, touch, taste etc. etc. are prioritised without the sight one dominating and squashing down those other ones. just a thought? but do whatever feels best to you.........

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Well, everyone is different, and listening to other people's recomendations as to what you "should" do isn't always helpful.What's right for the majority isn't always right for you, as you're a unique person

I agree with Christine on this actually, about the switch in senses. It just depends on what senses people prefer.

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When I first kissed a boy, I shut my eyes, mostly because I had been told that's what you do. But as I got into my second (and current) relationship, and got more comfortable with him, I'd peek my eyes open a bit, and found he was looking at me too. We'd giggle for a few minutes. I think knowing he was doing the same thing I was really helped the intimacy. Talk to your girlfriend about what SHE thinks about it

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