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momomo
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I know its ultimately up to me but I'm having trouble rationalizing my feelings about it. He's a freshman in college (im a senior in highschool) and he lives 3000 miles away. we have been exclusive for a little over a year but we decided to be forgiving while we're apart (if somethin happens, it will probably be forgiven.... unless it crosses a certain line). ok. so he was invited to a friend's frat thanksgiving party which involved a stripper after dinner so he asked me if he could go. I guess it offends me that he needs to go to that type of thing, you know? He said he wouldn't stay for the stripper after I told him I really wasn't comfortable with it, but he put up a little bit of a fight-- mostly cuz he didn't really understand why it upset me. I couldn't really explain it either. I'm fine with porn or whatever but... I guess its different when its real life... and I know the girls on his hall are really slutty, but their profession isn't sex. I dunno, what would u guys do in my situation? (I know its my decision, I'm just curious as to what you guys think)
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In your situation, I would probably, in all honesty, be upset and hope that he would agree to leave before the stripper. But I'm a jealous person.
Except, if I knew that he wouldn't have any contact with her. Physical or talking to her, I guess I would be okay with it.

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i wonder how many guys can keep the deal to not even TALK to her. especially since probably every other guy will be up n at em about her. i would be very upset if he understood how uncomfortable i was with it, and went anyway. especially with stipulations
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thanks.... glad to know im not crazy for not wanting him to go!
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i am a very jealous girlfriend as well and i don't really think i would want my boyfriend to go someplace that had a stripper all close and personal...but giving your circumstances i think i might let it slide. 1. he asked you...that shows that he at least somewhat cares what you think and how you feel...he could have just gone and lied to you about it...also you said you are 3000 miles apart...i'm sure he would jump at the chance to be with you right now for comfort and intimacy, but its just not possible...i don't see whats wrong with him going to see a stripper...its completly normal for a guy to enjoy seeing a girls body no matter who she is. and 3. a strippers profession is not sex, most of the time strippers arn't even allowed to be touched, a strippers profession is entertainment and i think they do a darn good job of it.
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I'm not saying their profession is having sex, or having sex for money, but their profession is to sell sex, just as it is nude pornography models or actors in pornographic films.

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I am a very jealous person, and i would try to really make him understand why i thought it was a bad idea, saying like i don't feel comfortable with you seeing a live girl dancing in front of you where shes really really there, not like in a tv or computer. I would also think about his situation, since you 2 are not really full blast into the relationship, its a little laid back than normally, then i would think about his situation, and see how you would feel if you were gonna be able to see a male stripper, or something like that. just make sure that you think about all the possibilities before you choose.
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thanks... well we broke up so its not an issue anymore =(
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