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Ztloj
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I have many male friends, far more than female. We tend to talk easily and openly, and have plenty of fun together, yet there always seems to be some emotional barrier there. With my female friends, I feel genuninely happy or sad or anything. But with my male friends, emotions seem restrained, muted... The thing is, I'm not really sure why. The way I interact with male and female friends isn't that different. I want to be more relaxed and myself around the boys I love.

I guess my question is, does/has anyone had similar feelings? If so, how does one overcome them?


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coolestdesignz
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Sounds like sexual tension to me. Not really to overcome it, but to deal with it. It's not a challenge, but a fact instead. I would just talk?
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smilee_kylie
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Thats completely normal. Because they are the opposite sex they aren't going to be able to relate to you as well as females do on an emotional level. Males and females were made different this way and this is most probably the explanation for this. Its not about how to overcome it, but what you and even your male friends are comfortable with. I have a lot of male friends too. Some of them my emotions are restrained, but I do have a select few I feel I can be totally open with because I and them feel comfortable with it and we are very good friends. These feelings won't get in the way of your friendships, so there's no need to worry. It is actually quite healthy at the same time because it keeps that difference between your female friends and male friends.
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Heather
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Actually kylie, there's really nothing to support the idea that men and women are biologically or innately different when it comes to communicating with one another, or with their same sex. There's certainly evidence to support that social conditioning may play a big part, but very little to suggest those issues are nature, rather than nurture.

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