Hi, I posted a little while ago about my guy friend who Ive had feelings about for a few months. Even though I havent 'made a move' or asked him if he liked me, my guy friend and I are still hanging out around and after school. Some of my other friends keep telling me to do something because they think he likes me back, but its gotten to the point where I cant even see signs anymore, Im really paranoid. So here is where the problem starts. My friends and I were planning on going out this friday, but none of them could go except my friend. We've never really been alone together for longer than 15 minutes, and now we're going to be together for a few hours. Im really anxious because I dont know whats going to happen, or if i should see how he feels about me. I really feel strongly about him and Im excited to be going, but I dont know where to begin when being around him sometimes. What should I do?
Posts: 48 | From: PA, USA | Registered: Oct 2004
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I'm not exactly sure what you mean when you ask "What should I do?"
First of all, stop listening to your friends and what they say about him and you! It may be "embarassing" to ask him if he likes you, and you may not want to do that, but for goodness sakes, stop doing the "He said, she said". It never works, and more times than none, it just causes problems.
When you guys go out, just be yourself. Chances are if he is going to go with you, it must mean that he doesn't find you utterly repulsive . My take on this is that you are really just psyching yourself out. Many times it is easy to tell what others are thinking, simply by their presence and body language. Just go with the flow, and see what happens!
I think this is an awesome oppurtunity for you guys to come closer as friends. I often go out with one of my guy friends alone, we have no feelings for each other, its just casual friendship and because of that it feels comfortable. But as said, just be yourself. If you feel uncomfortable, thats completely normal. You have feelings for this guy, a million thoughts and feelings will be rushing through your head. If he feels uncomfortable too, the chances are hes feeling the exact same ay you are. But yes, the best advice is to go with what feels right to YOU and not anyone else and be yourself! Afterwards, you'll be happy you went .
Posts: 58 | From: Australia | Registered: Sep 2004
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Here's a neato thought that I posted somewhere before but might as well repeat:
How can you be someones GF/BF if you can't even be their friend? First, some of the best relationships are like intimate friendships. Next, isn't BF/GF way deeper than just friends?
If you think there might be something there, go for it, if you feel ready. It might turn out alright. No true friend would leave you if it didn't work out. I went out with someone once and it didn't work out very well. We are very good friends today.
Thankyou everyone who posted! About an hour ago my friend told me he had feelings for me, and Im glad you guys helped me pull through the uncertainty i felt before. Bye Posts: 48 | From: PA, USA | Registered: Oct 2004
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