I am recently getting over my exboyfriend who a month ago didn't get back with me because I hooked up with his best friend but me and my ex weren't going out so it was not cheating but it was a huge mistake. So, shortly after my 19 year old ex starts going out with a 14 year old but I'm slowly recovering. Now I like this really attractive guy who is a grade below me (he's a sophomore). He's not childish adorable but just Hot. He is also very sweet and sometimes he seems into me but maybe he is just nice to all girls like that? I don't know. What could I say or do to know if I have a chance? or if maybe he likes me...do I ask straight out? My second question is if this is pathetic since he is a year younger than me...and my last question is it pathetic that at 16 you're still a virgin?
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quote:and my last question is it pathetic that at 16 you're still a virgin?
Not at all. Lots of people are "virgins" (I'm assuming you mean in the sense that they haven't had intercourse yet) at 16, 18, 22 and later...and it just means that they haven't found the person that they want to do that with yet, or they don't feel ready or just plain don't want to for any number of other reasons.
(edited because spelling and grammar are my friend!)
[This message has been edited by Glam (edited 09-02-2004).]
......and I don't think it's "pathetic" to be a virgin, in any sense of the word, at any age. It isn't a hoop that you have to jump through at some specific time, or indeed ever if you don't want to.
Personally I have respect for people who haven't given in to social pressure to be sexually active.
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When I was 16 I guess I kind of wanted to try intercourse. See what it was all about. Everybody was talking about it. But I didn't want to just try. I know now that I wasn't really ready then. So I waited. I think that is good. Didn't try until I was 28 after I met a woman that was and is very special to me. Maybe a bit strange or different but I don't feel it is pathetic. I feel quite happy that I didn't try before her. The prospect that I could be with her long time, never try with anyone else. Have only had good experiences.
She is Chinese. At least for her generation it was normal to not start dating until you were around 25 or older.
Could sound like you are 16 and he was 3 years older. Why would 1 year younger be a problem for you then?
No it's not pathetic at all to be 16 and still a virgin. ACtually, it's quite remarkable these days lol. Sadly but truely. (Even though I am not a virgin I believe I did it with the right person. That is whut alot of teenagers are missing when they have sex.) But anyway, bite the bullet with this new guy. It would kinda suck to not really like him though since you are getting over an ex he may just be a rebound. (hopefully not.) But when you think about it, every first guy you date after a breakup will be a 'rebound'. Sortof.. But yah. If you like this guy and you think there could possibly be something there then why not just go for it? Talk to him online, that's a good starter. You can talk for hours on end without worrying about what kind of face you're making or what you're wearing or anything. You can take the time you need to say the right things and everything.
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