Yesterday I broke up with my long-term boyfriend. We had both agreed not to have sex before marriage, but he surprised me by coming over last weekend (he lives several hours away) and we did. It was completely safe and everything, but it's what happened afterward that upset me. Before all this, he's said that if anything happened (like me getting pregnant, as unlikely as that is) he'd marry me. Well, after I slept with him (like 5 minutes later) he said "you know that if you get pregnant you have to have an abortion, right? 'Cuz if you don't, I'll tell everyone that the baby's not mine." I was so mad at him that I made him leave. Yesterday I spent some time talking with a friend, then I called and broke up with him. All he had to say was "You didn't actually believe me, did you? No way am I ever getting married!" Anyway, it's all over and I'm still mad. Why are guys like that?!? Is the only thing any of them want out of a relationship sex??? Ug... Sorry for rambling, I guess I still just needed to vent.
I think the best thing to do right now is distance yourself from him. I can tell that you are someone who really respects herself and I think your decision was wise. I know you will find someone someday who will love you and will not be with you for the sex. My ex-boyfriend was the first guy I ever had sex with and he made it feel so right because he never pressured me about it and was behind me 100%, it was a mutual decision so the responsibility was equally shared. Don't give up hope not all guys are the same.
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LOL, thanks for the advice. I can see that he's a loser, but it irritates me that I didn't see it coming! Oh well. Life goes on! One of my current guy friend just confessed (like two seconds ago) that he's had a crush on me for a while, but I've never been single while I've known him. Maybe after a while we'll see where that goes... But right now I'm just going to enjoy being by myself and having fun!
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