ahh...I'm still dealing with this from about two years ago...I believe love is possible, but keeping your head below the clouds is VERY IMPORTANT! In my experiences, there was always the mentioning and the desire to meet in person, but he's always been very flaky about it...can't say I blame him, considering the distance between us, but it gets heart-wrenching.
I feel that the best thing to do is acknowledge your feelings and share them with this person and nothing more; I loved this guy, and I suppose I still do (to a lesser degree and as a friend), but that will NOT stop me from pursuing someone I know in real life. It can be tough, but you have to brace yourself for let-downs and emotional pain from lack of physical contact (I'm not talking about sex necessarily). This may sound awful but sometimes it's easier to keep yourself from loving him/her so that you're not so vulnerable. (Not to imply that vulnerability is always a bad thing)
I hope I haven't ranted too much.
------------------ would you forgive me, love, if I danced in your shower?
my uncle met his wife online and they have been married since i think 2001. and they have a 4 month old baby together now. so i know it works some times. you just have to be really careful when meeting people in person, not everyone is who they say they are.
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