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ok heres the deal. my friend (who is a girl) said after she broke up with her bf she would go out with me. so when they broke up we had fooled around a few times. and she said she loved me. and we were very close to becomeing gf-gf and now all of a sudden she has a bf! and is in love with him. and says she is straight now. but then when he isn't there she makes moves on me. and i have no idea what to do. i know i shouldn't because she has a bf. but then she dose certain things that make it seem ok. what should i do????

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Originally posted by bi-bi-baby:
my friend (who is a girl) said after she broke up with her bf she would go out with me.

Anyone who would make this sort of claim is pretty untrustworthy from the start, wouldn't you agree?

I mean, let's see here...she's going out with someone while she's making plans to go out with you? It certainly doesn't seem right to me, and the thought that she'd probably end up doing the same thing to you later on should have crossed your mind at some point.

That said, I'm not really surprised that things fell through. Untrustworthy people do things like that. They tell you one thing, do another, and then make it all seem alright so they can do it to you again. This is the hallmark of an untrustworthy person. This is a person you should avoid.

You're dead-on that messing around with her while she's committed (and apparently in love with) someone else is a bad idea. You're opening yourself up for all sorts of drama while also helping her to undermine her own relationship. It's just no good, darlin'. You can do better than that, and you certainly deserve better too.

If I were you, I'd drop this girl and move on along. There are plenty of trustworthy people out there who would be fun to hang out with, and whom you might even find something else with. Every time you go back to this girl, you are losing precious time that you could be spending on finding someone better, aside from doing all the bad stuff we discussed in the previous paragraph. Leave her to her boyfriend and find someone else. And take care of yourself.

BruinDan, "Number Three," PHOM

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