Originally posted by Emmers:
So, any advice on how 2 cope w/ a jealous/backstabbing friend??
Sweetie, that could just as easily apply in reverse, you know.
So you're jealous. Not a big deal, we all get jealous at some point, right? It's all in how you handle it. And right now, I don't really think you're handling this as well as you could be.
Your best friend of 8 years is dating a guy, and you're letting him tickle and grab you? I understand that he's the one making the moves, but it needs to be you who is the one making the stops. The same goes for flirting. Even though he may be tempting you, it's going to have to be you who cuts it all off. Because right now, you really don't have much credibility here. You're actively allowing this guy to flirt with you, which makes your friend think you're trying to steal her boyfriend. In her mind, it's you who's doing the backstabbing!
None of us here can tell why he's with her if he seems to like you more, but it can't be your decision anyway. If he is going to leave her for you, then you'll have the choice whether or not to mess with him. But for now, you are treading on some very thin ice. Are you really willing to lose your best friend of 8 years over this guy? Chances are he'll fade out of the picture relatively soon...this would not ordinarily be the case with your best friend. Are you willing to run the risk of alienating her forever?
If I were you, I'd think long and hard about what you're doing here. No matter how innocent it may seem, things like this tend to blow up over time, and I'd hate to see you lose a solid friendship over something that, in the grand scheme, is so petty. It's your choice to make, and I do hope you make it wisely.
And while I'm here, allow me to gently remind you not to use "netspeak" around here. Writing "to" instead of "2" is just one more easy keystroke, and it makes things a whole heck of lot easier to understand. Same goes for things like "be" (one more keystroke), and "for" (two additional keystrokes). It's not that hard, darlin', and it'll make you come across far more clearly.
BruinDan, "Number Three," PHOM
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