Iím stuck between a rock and a hard place. Iíve always been the type of girl who never really believed in romantic love. In fact, I never was looking for butterflies and roses and all these things often heard of in the cinema. But then I met Bo. A sweet, caring, intelligent male from Africa-America. This is the ideal man, looks, intelligence, fine taste in music, wealth, (although we all know thatís not a factor), and the reputation of a saint. We dated for about five months and I find my self-falling completely head over heels for him. Unfortunately I found out a couple of weeks ago that he had sex with a former friend. Strangely enough this doesnít bother me as much as it probably should of. Even so, a friend, Devon, has been there every step of the way. He told me that I shouldnít be with someone who I cannot trust, it defeats the purpose of a relationship. Hereís the sad partÖ I think Iím falling for Devon. And for some reason I think heís falling for me. Devon has always been there. And while Bo is desperately trying to win me back, Devon (a quiet, misunderstood, rocker) tells me to push him away. Devon recently kissed me, and although Bo and I arenít together, I still feel like I cheated on Bo (even though that was one hell of a kiss.) Iím crazy about Bo, but if I pick him, it may destroy me because heís not so honest as I thought he was. If I pick Devon, then it might destroy the relationship we have now even though we have feelings for each other. I donít know if thatís something worth denying. Perhaps you canít tell me whom exactly to pick. But can you tell me how I can find out? What to do? Please do help. I really am stuck between a rock and hard place.
Wow, sounds like you are in a difficult situation! In my opinion, if you feel that you can't trust Bo, then it's best not to be with him. Like you put it, without trust a relationship won't work.
It sounds to me like Devon is a trustworthy guy. He's always been there for you so that's a BIG plus..he listens and cares. About ruining the relationship, there are always risks. But if you honestly feel that he cares for you, I'd at least take a chance. But that's just me! You can always stay friends if the romance doesn't work out. Easier said than done! Hun, I hope I helped! These are my opinions so feel free to tell me differently. =)
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