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neveragain
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so my boyfriend is this really nice guy..and i am not doubting the fact that he doesnt love me anymore..however, we have had exam week the past week and havent managed to do anything..except we walked around school for an hour..holding hands and hugging and everything..and as of tuesday we will have holidays..monday is our last exam day..and he asked me last week whether i wanted to do something with him on either monday or tuesday and i said ok..and yesterday i asked him, "so whats happening on monday" and he said, "lets just walk around school again in between the exams" and that pissed me off..because i thought we were going to do something after school...then i asked him you know why not were going to do something after school and he said that he cant because his friends want him to do something with them....!
and since then he hasn't had any contact..his cell phone is kind of crap so it could be that it's broken again..because it always is..or something..and he hasn't been online either..so i am beginning to worry.......should i dump him? is he worthwile to have??
many people are telling me long time now that i am too good for him...but i dont believe in them..i just feel bad when they say it because i really like him..what should i do???

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Gumdrop Girl
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i'll send this to Relationships so you can get lots of people's replies to your question.

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neveragain
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thanks..
so anyone..any advice what i should do?!?!

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Milke
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It's 12:30 AM Pacific time, which means it's even later for a lot of folks who frequent these boards, so please be patient.

If this one incident is enough to make you want to leave someone, I'd wonder what else is going on in this relationships that you haven't mentioned. Generally, if things are going well, and there's more to what you two have together than just being in the same place at the same time, something like this wouldn't seem like that big a deal. But if it's bothering you so much, perhaps it's not the only area that needs help? I'd try calling this guy's landline and asking what the deal is.

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neveragain
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its just im really emotional..and i have a hard time gathering my feelings..and i ALWAYS keep thinking if he still likes me or not...and i worry too much about it..even though i dont think i should..and that maybe affects it...i dunno..
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celery
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Well I think it might be something to regret if you really like this guy and break up with him because he wanted to hang out with his friends instead of you for one day.

I know it's hard to spend time apart from your boyfriend but you have to have time apart because honestly if I was with someone and they were constantly around me I think I would go nuts! My friend is a perfect example her boyfriend goes CRAZY if they don't spend like everyday all day together and it drives her crazy, so maybe you should just let him go with his friends sometimes,

My advice would be to go out with your friends and try not to think about him all the time. Or take up something fun so that it's not so bad when you two aren't together.

If you really like him I don't think you should dump him, but it's really up to you.


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babyblondie
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thanks..hehe..ok im the same person..just changed username..
well he is going to canada for 2 weeks over the christmas break now so i wont see him..
=( but its ok..because i know he loves me so im all good!
thanks!

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Milke
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You know, the reason you don't tend to see people changing names around here is because it's explicitly forbidden in the guidelines you agreed to when you signed up here. Since you've already broken them, you need to choose one name, inform us of which it is, and stick with it. If you're found posting under multiple user names, you will no longer be able to use these boards. If you've any issues with this, or are having technical difficulties with this site, please contact us at boards@scarleteen.com

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babyblondie
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what the hell.....
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-Jill
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I think Milke's post made things perfectly clear. You get one username and only one, as stipulated in the guidelines you agreed to when you registered. Please inform us which one you'll be using from this point.

If there's something you're not understanding please ask instead of making pointless one liners.

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babyblondie
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well...i couldnt post anything on the other one..so i had to make a new one..is that so hard?!
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-Jill
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The problem is you are violating the guidelines and being rather rude when we remind you of them. If you had a problem with your original username it likely could have been solved by emailing boards@scarleteen.com or one of the mods.

We understand that sometimes things just don't work but that doesn't make it okay to be snippy. Had you been polite and followed Milke's original request to simply inform us of your permanent username we'd be done discussing this.

I'm going to assume babyblondie is the username you'll be using from now on; please correct me if I'm wrong. Also, you need to reread the Guidelines and our thread on Board Etiquette.

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ok.............
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