As I said before, I'm a 19 yeard old virgin and now, thanks to all the replies, have cleared some of the doubts I had and feel ok about it. But, one thing which troubles me is this; let's suppose I meet a really great girl and lets suppose that the relationship eventually leads to sex. What if the girl is much more experienced than me? Will she want me less? Will she dislike the fact that i'm not as experienced, that maybe she will never have with me what she had with past people? I guess this question simply reflects insecurity on my part, but how can i meet someone else's standards, bearing in mind I haven't really been up to anything? The fact that a girl has more experience than me doesn't trouble me. What worries me is that i'll never be up to her standards, will never be what she wants and, deep inside, she will always remember her past and want it back in a way. I hope you understand what I mean. Any comments would be great, thanks
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There's a thing about past experiences; the experience gained really only applies to that person you were with, not to any new partners a man or woman might have.
Really, sexual activity, whether it's the first or twenty-first time you're having it, is a learning experience. Any partner worth their salt is going to want to grow in experience with you, and teach about what THEY (as in that one person) likes. Any previous experience may have a general bearing (for example, safer sex practices, etc.) but anything specific, as we're fond of saying around here, applies to each person individually.
Again, any partner worth being with is going to acknowledge that this is a new experience for the both of you, and I think in that regard, you'll be just fine.
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