Donate Now
We've Moved! Check out our new boards.
  New Poll  
my profile | directory login | search | faq | forum home

  next oldest topic   next newest topic
» Scarleteen Boards: 2000 - 2014 (Archive) » SCARLETEEN CENTRAL » Relationships » Shy

 - UBBFriend: Email this page to someone!    
Author Topic: Shy
Member # 15878

Icon 9 posted      Profile for simonsupersub     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post 

ive been with my gf (katie) for nearly 6 months now and we are, well i cant speak for her but i am DEFInATELY in love. She keeps telling me i have no faults but one thing that disappoiints her is that i am so shy around her friends. I have areal Social Phobia sort of problem, trouble talking to people and self-confidence. In person it gets really hard and i stiffen up and freeze, dont know what to say unless they're someone i know really well. Any suggestions on how i can overcome my shyness?


Posts: 4 | From: Moscow | Registered: Dec 2003  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
Gumdrop Girl
Scarleteen Volunteer
Member # 568

Icon 1 posted      Profile for Gumdrop Girl     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post 
you can keep a list of small talk questions in case you reach awkward pauses in conversation.

ask them how their day was
ask them about movies, music or tv
ask them about school
pay them a (sincere) compliment about their clothes
if you go to a movie as a group, then talk about the movie afterwards

It ain't the holidays till I see a Salad Shooter commercial.
Love Scarleteen? By donating just $1, you can help keep us around.

Posts: 12677 | From: Los Angeles, CA ... somewhere off the 10 | Registered: Jul 2000  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
Member # 15618

Icon 7 posted      Profile for clarinetgoddess     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post 
I'll second Gumdrop Girl. I'm incredibly shy myself. I have to talk to my friends by starting with "how was your weekend?" or "how'd the concert go?", never mind people I don't know! Talking to the people I'm less familiar with by making small talk is easy for me, though, and it works. Makes them feel appreciated and you're put more at ease.

Amanda, "The Clarinet Goddess"
Supportin' a bad football team since 2001

Posts: 19 | From: Coventry, RI, USA | Registered: Nov 2003  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
Member # 15906

Icon 1 posted      Profile for Brodda     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post 
I think it run's with then name, i could say the same thing, i think that's why i havnt had very many gf's. just have trouble striking up a convo. although im open to any other suggestion's about it, lol. only thing i could tell yah bro, just gonna have to try to relax. and think about it from the other side of thing's, like if you're not sure if you should say somthin, think of whether it would offend you (leaving any sexist jokes or remark's aside)

see you around the forom
later day's

Posts: 10 | From: Missoula, Montana | Registered: Dec 2003  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator

  New Poll   Close Topic   Feature Topic   Move Topic   Delete Topic next oldest topic   next newest topic
 - Printer-friendly view of this topic
Hop To:

Contact Us | Get the Whole Story! Go Home to SCARLETEEN: Sex Ed for the Real World | Privacy Statement

Copyright 1998, 2014 Heather Corinna/Scarleteen Providing comprehensive sex education online to teens and young adults worldwide since 1998

Information on this site is provided for educational purposes. It is not meant to and cannot substitute for advice or care provided by an in-person medical professional. The information contained herein is not meant to be used to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease, or for prescribing any medication. You should always consult your own healthcare provider if you have a health problem or medical condition.

Powered by UBB.classic™ 6.7.3