ive been with my gf (katie) for nearly 6 months now and we are, well i cant speak for her but i am DEFInATELY in love. She keeps telling me i have no faults but one thing that disappoiints her is that i am so shy around her friends. I have areal Social Phobia sort of problem, trouble talking to people and self-confidence. In person it gets really hard and i stiffen up and freeze, dont know what to say unless they're someone i know really well. Any suggestions on how i can overcome my shyness?
you can keep a list of small talk questions in case you reach awkward pauses in conversation.
ask them how their day was ask them about movies, music or tv ask them about school pay them a (sincere) compliment about their clothes if you go to a movie as a group, then talk about the movie afterwards
I'll second Gumdrop Girl. I'm incredibly shy myself. I have to talk to my friends by starting with "how was your weekend?" or "how'd the concert go?", never mind people I don't know! Talking to the people I'm less familiar with by making small talk is easy for me, though, and it works. Makes them feel appreciated and you're put more at ease.
I think it run's with then name, i could say the same thing, i think that's why i havnt had very many gf's. just have trouble striking up a convo. although im open to any other suggestion's about it, lol. only thing i could tell yah bro, just gonna have to try to relax. and think about it from the other side of thing's, like if you're not sure if you should say somthin, think of whether it would offend you (leaving any sexist jokes or remark's aside)
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