I'm really mad rite now, becauze my friend said she saw my crush, I don't wanna drop any namez...(so then don't) & she said she asked him if he liked me & He said, "No. She'z a POSER!" This 1 girl (I think she did it) started a rumor that I'm a poser. I wasn't worried about it at first, but now, it's reallygetting 2 me! What should I do! ThanX! ~ME AGAIN~
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quote:Originally posted by Anndee: I wasn't worried about it at first, but now, it's reallygetting 2 me! What should I do!
First of all, be cool. We don't want anyone dropping names in anger around here, so don't be doing that again. There are only about 5500 teenagers in your area, and we don't want any of them seeing their names up here and gettin' all antsy about it. So let's cut that out, shall we?
As for what you can do...ignore them. The word "poser" itself is so completely meaningless that most people just laugh when they hear it anyway. I know right now it may seem like the end of the world, but for the love of cheese, can you even tell me what that word means? It's all subjective, and if you listen to those knuckleheads who are calling you names, you're the one I'd worry about! Let them play their little games, you just keep moving forward with your head held high.
Remember, nobody can get you down unless you let them. Once they see that you're unfazed by their name-calling, they'll get over it and move on. And so will you. Cheers!
Gumdrop Girl, that AFI / Good Charlotte thing is brilliant.
also, i don't really understand how it can be "rumored" that somebody is a poser... and honestly, i don't think that this boy would decide that you are one just because somebody told him that you were... my advice to you is to just get over him and move on, cuz it sounds like he really isn't worth the angst.
Glad you liked the analogy, Pebble. I used to watch AFI play in this dingy little warehouse club in Berkeley back in college. Now they're big, and all their old fans are miffed because the poser kids are all into AFI now.
I'd like to think I know a thing or two about posers because I'm some sort of indie hipster snob. I'll definitely say this on the matter, rumors don't make posers. People can see a poser from a mile away. It's really clear if you're a poser or not. Ever heard that Offspring (punks like to call them posers, too!) song "Pretty Fly for a White Guy?" that pretty much captures the essence of a poser. It's hard to hide it when you're trying THAT hard and failing at it.
So, Anndee, does this mean you have no right to be mad? no, if someone's saying stupid stuff about you, you have a right to be upset. But it's not the end of the world. you can still prove that gal wrong (i'd defeat the poser tag by accumulating a much better CD collection than everybody else).
Then you can be a big girl and instead of relying on your friend to talk to your crush for you, you can start talking to him yourself and see what happens. I mean, it's *soooooo* 7th grade to make your friends ask him about you on your behalf. You don't have to just go up to him and say, "Hi, i like you, do you like me?" Instead you can just say hi every day and maybe work your way up to conversations at recess.
It also doesn't hurt to try to type words correctly. Good spelling is for folks who keep it real.
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