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Most of us have had our hearts broken at least once. After a breakup, picking up the pieces and moving on is a cliche that doesn't cut it for most people. There's a very real process not all too different than grieving that people go through, rather or not they wanted the breakup. I thought it would be a good idea to start a list (please add on to it!) of ways to heal or at the very least distract yourself after splitting up with your significant other.

-Write (Journal, poetry, heck-write a book!)
-Take up a new activity
-Go to the library for no particular reason
-Take a bubblebath
-Go out for coffee with an old friend
-Go for a walk
-Give yourself a manicure
-Read children's books

Add on...

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Here's what I did after my last breakup:

I got a personal trainer and buried whatever emotional pain I was feeling in real, physical pain. I gained a lot of muscle in the process and developed some pretty good habits, including an acquired tolerance for leafy greens. I even ran a 5k yesterday! You can read about my experiences at the gym in the Gen. Health forum.

Then I sought some comfort in an old friend. Rebound sex? Yes. But so far, it's translating into a very nice relationship. I'm euphoric.

And last but not least, I moved to the other end of the state and stopped talking to my ex. Maybe someday I'll be ready to talk to him, but by then I don't think I'll have any reason to.

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Well, after my first break up I made a list about things that made me happy. Just random things (puppies, etc). And I cleaned my room a lot.

Second break up was actually totally devastating for me, so I wrote my ex a really long letter pouring everything I felt into itand didn't send it. I found that to be a really good way of coping, just to see it all out on paper. I would recommend that!

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it's all about the social support networks. if there's something wrong, talk about it to your friends, and it will make you feel so much better. i practically guarantee.

also, find new activities to do. branching out always helps.

and, as a coping strategy, i usually hide things that remind me of my ex for a while after the breakup. it just helps.

for the record, I just broke up with my first serious boyfriend yesterday, so I don't think this thread could have come at a more oppurtune time.

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stupid, i don't think i dealt with it in the best way, but here's some stuff that actually helped me

-partying until i DROPPED...hey you're single...very attractive, good ego boost
-working out
-blasting the music in your room to music that can't help but make you dance
-crying your heart out to slowjams
-getting a new haircut/style/dye...fresh start right?
-watch a movie or play or something with a friend you haven't seen in a while

some things that DIDN'T help, tho...

-having sex with a guy at a party i knew he was at to make him jealous
-punching my mirror and cutting up my hand
-drinking like an insane alcoholic at parties and crying and puking by the end of the night (i know i said to party, but PARTY SAFE)

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