My best friend and I got into a petty fight recently, because I disagreed with something she had written in her online journal. She said something along the lines of, "Fine, would you feel better if I erased it?" I of course said no, I didn't care what she put on it, I was just saying that I disagreed. "Too late," she said, and that portion of her post was promptly erased. She then wanted to reconcile and changed the subject, asking me what I was doing. I took *two minutes* before I could answer, and as a result she said "Nevermind then," and got offline. :\ It's been a few days and we haven't spoken, and I know it's silly. I just don't think I'm at fault for any of this. Should I apologize anyway?
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How about you initiate a conversation maturely about what you're comfortable with her saying about you, or recounting of your words, publicly?
Online journals are tricky, tricky business (I know all about it, I've kept one since the dark ages that has thousands of readers a day). And some of making them work is being able to work with the privacy the people in your life want and need.
So, if it's about you, you do get to have a say and ask for what boundaries you need. If it isn't, she gets to express herself as she likes.
But I'd go ahead and bridge the gap before it gets too wide if this is a friend you want to keep. There's never any shame or harm in being a peacekeeper.
Maybe you could suggest that she either check with you before posting about you or make the entry a private one if there is even a question.
I know all too well about the livejournal wars that can erupt. The fact is, it's a journal and I think people sometimes misuse it to indirectly confront someone-and then, some people have forgotten from time to time that it actually does get read.
LiveJournals are funny because the point of a journal or diary is to keep your innermost thoughts and feelings and while LJ started to keep your family and friends posted on your life when you're too busy to inform, it has turned into a sort of venting space for personal thoughts and feelings for many people...but this is the internet and anyone can read that and everyone should keep this in mind.
------------------ "My art forgot her tampon and she's bleeding through her jeans, yeah my art don't need no tampon she'll just bleed through her jeans"-Alix Olson
Oh no, what she wrote wasn't about me. It was about a friend of ours. I said just that, that she was allowed to put what she wanted on her blog, but that I didn't agree with it. She exploded and erased it.
But you're right, I might as well bridge the gap. It's stupid anyway. Thanks you two!
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