Originally posted by TheOriginalMexicanPimp!:
Tell me, are guys like me hopeless?
Well, I dunno dude. I live a stone's-throw from Mexico, but darned if I've ever seen a Mexican Pimp before...
I'd like to introduce you to a nice old adage BuinGranny once told me when I was just a wee BruinBoy. "A watched kettle never boils." Heard of it? Quite famous, with varieties that span cultures, languages, and continents. Why so popular? Because it's completely true. That which we look for becomes much more difficult to find when we're spending every waking hour trying to find it.
Counterintuitive as it sounds, you are living proof that it's true. You're "searching" all over the place, including other schools, and are coming up short. Why not stop looking and wait for things to come your way?
I know that when I was younger, I was lookin' all over the place too...just because I didn't know any better. And the more I looked, the more disenchanted I became when I couldn't find what I was looking for. So I decided I'd give it up, focus on other things...and voila. In she came via the back door.
And you're right not to want to take advantage of people. It's a pretty insidious thing to do, and I'd not expect that from such a likeable, mature chap. Glad to hear you know better than that.
For now though, just tone it down a bit, bud. Healthy self-confidence is a good thing, but even the coolest pimps need to take it easy every now and then. Stop searching and start enjoying where you are right here and now, and see where that gets you. Sometimes the life you are after really is hidden in plain sight.
BruinDan, "Number Three," PHOM
Beware the naked man who offereth you his pants.