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tammy2004
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hi, my family forcing me to marry a man that i do not love. i have voiced my opinion, but this doesn't seems to break the traditional values. the man's family is forcing too, and this makes me very unhappy. the man's family keep talk about "produce many sons". they think me virgin, but i am not, which make my value lower as woman. i don't believe this. why girl have to be virgin when marry but guy not. makes me angry how everybody push and pressure me. everyone think me a rulebreaker and no good daughter. i am not ready for sexual intercourse, and don't want it with him, but man say its ok and forces. help me!!!
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logic_grrl
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If this man is trying to force you to have sex with him, you should contact the police.

Forced marriage is not legal in Japan. Contacting social services might also be a good idea - they may be able to help with your family, or if the worst comes to the worst find you somewhere else to live.


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Heather
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...and it's certainly not legal in Arizona.

Which is relevant since you're not posting from Japan, but from Arizona State University.

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tammy2004
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thank you for kind information. i very glad for advice. i think i talk to the man's parents and tell what i think. i am adult, and i have right. traditional values too tight on me, i choose freedom to speak my mind. but curage is needed to talk out. my parents want me to marry japanese man, but i don't if i do not love him. i do my best, and get my aunt to suport me in talking. after all, it's my important choice, not parents. do you think so?
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