I am not a strong believer in monogamy at least not at this point in my life. I like to "get out there" and "try new things" and consequently I have never been in a serious relationship, which is fine with me. Recently though I have been seeing this guy who is interested in starting something 'serious', which kind of threw me for a loop because we had established we were having fun. How do I let him know that I am not ready to be monogamous...and am I a bad person for not wanting to be? Does this make me a slut?
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Just talk to him. Let him know you're not as interested in being "serious". Try to find something that makes both of you happy.
And don't worry about being a "slut"--different people do have different preferences. As long as you're honest with the people you're getting involved with (which it sounds like you are), and practicing safer sex, you're being responsible and mature.
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It should also be pointed out that you can be in a "serious" relationship and still have multiple sexual and emotional partners, even multiple primary partners. But, for that to work, it requires the agreement of everyone involved that that type of practice be used.
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