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little miss kitty
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well i have liked this boy for a while, i ll call him jake. and apparantly he likes me as well but is really really shy. We get on really well which is good but his best mates opinion was that he didnt want to do anything because of what people would say and he doesnt like people talking about him.

i had bascially given up on him feeling anything for me even though people had told me he did because nothing had happened, but last saturday we were at a friends party and he didnt go home with his friends in the cab because i asked him not to, i had been only joking but he stayed anyway.

the friends house we were at his mother was trying to find all the people staying over, rooms to sleep in and she assumed we were boyfriend and girlfriend and put us in the same room and we ended up kissing. it was the first time we had ever kissed and we stayed up all night just kissing and talking, from about 3 in the mornin till about half 7 the same day in the morning. it was really good except he wanted to keep it a secret. i dont know what to think, whether he kissed me because i was there or because he actually wanted to? any opinions would be great thanx xxxx


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logic_grrl
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i had bascially given up on him feeling anything for me even though people had told me he did because nothing had happened,

Hey, it's always worth remembering that you have the option of making the first move - you don't have to wait around passively in the hope that someone else will .

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i dont know what to think, whether he kissed me because i was there or because he actually wanted to?

The thing is, he's the only person who's going to be able to tell you that. So it sounds like you need to have a talk with him and find out what he wants and how he feels about the status of your relationship.

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it was really good except he wanted to keep it a secret.

Even if he's shy and doesn't want people talking about him, having a relationship that has to be kept a big secret from anyone is often a recipe for disaster.

So if the two of you decide that you do want to be together, that's something you might want to discuss as well.


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~Jasons*Baby~
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I think that if you like him enough you should talk everything out with him. Ask him why he wants to keep everything a secret and why he kissed you in the first place. You need to find out his true feelings first. Also if he doesn't really like you or he is ashamed of you he isn't worth it anyways.
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