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I'm dealing with a guy who is older than me (he's 28 and I'm 20) we had a relationship where I was his girlfriend then suddenly we became just friends because he said he couldn't trust me and I was sneaky(checking his caller ID or answering his phone to see who's calling).But now that we're "so-called" friends he tells me that he doesn't like the way are relationship is and he wants us to work it out.I have no problem with that;I want to work it out too,but I feel that he doesn't treat me like a friend because I spend days/nights at his house and I drive his car. He wouldn't let just any female drive his car, that's like his baby.Why is he labeling me as his friend?I personally feel that his frontin' about "us". I also feel that he's not ready for a committed relationship and the only reason why he tells me he wants to "work things out" is because I think he's scared that I might go somewhere else and he wants to keep me close to him as much as possible.Sometimes I think he gets jealous when guys approach me,but he pretends that it doesn't bother him and then has the nerve to ask me questions later on. What's really going on because I need to know so I can make a decision....
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Umm, if I put things as bluntly as I'm thinking them, BruinDan would edit my post, so suffice it to say that I don't think this guy's a good bet for a relationship? Why put up with someone who's being manipulative and susupicious and just generally sort of creepy? Why not find a boyfriend who you know likes you, and trusts you, and doesn't make up strange stories and excuses rather than putting up with this crap? I don't know exactly what this guy's problem is, but there's no reason it should be yours too, so move on and let him deal with his neuroses by himself.

Milke, with an L, Mrs BD to you, RATS, TMNTP, MF, CWCD, WAOTA

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Honestly, after reading through your post, mizzkool, I really haven't found anything really weird. Maybe I've read it wrong judging from Milke, but it sounds like you both have sort of trust issues. Just sit down and tell him that that he doesn't need to get jealous of every guy you talk to.

I understand about him just calling you his friend. My last girlfriend constantly just referred to me as her friend. I wish I would have spoken up. Sorry I can't be of much help there.

Wait, did you constantly check his caller I.D. and keep answering his phone or not. I'm now just seeing the impression that it was just in his head. Clarification would help.

Also at the risk of sounding like a dork, what does frontin' mean?:P

Stick and stones
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But words can hurt like H*ll

[This message has been edited by tinman (edited 10-09-2003).]

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Originally posted by tinman:
Also at the risk of sounding like a dork, what does frontin' mean?:P

To put up a "false front," or facade. To act one way in front of somebody and another way in front of others.

Very early 1990's term, popularized in MC Breed (and the DFC)'s masterpiece, "Yo, There Ain't No Future in Yo' Frontin'."

BruinDan, "Number Three," PHOM

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