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crepe
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i've often heard of this phrase...but what does it mean exactly? are there certain traits a person displays when they are in this situation?
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aroseisarose
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Just speculating here...maybe someone else has some more solid info...

I think it means that someone likes the feeling of being in love, maybe because of the commitment, or whatever, regardless of who exactly the other person is. You know that feeling you (supposedly) get when you like someone a lot? I think it means that they're addicted to that feeling.


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magpie
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The way I've heard this phrase used is simlar to what aroseisarose described. To me it means you love how they make you feel, but not really them. I don't know that there are specific traits anyone shows when experiencing this. Everyone reacts to different emotions and feelings differently.
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I've most often seen it applied to people who go from relationship to relationship very quickly, and who bolt from their relationships once the initial infatuation fades. These are the people you'll see around school professing their undying love for Courtney one week, Christina the next, and Catherine the week after that. Interestingly enough, these are also the same type of people who give rise to the adult belief that teens can't possibly know what love is, since they bounce around so much. Lovely, isn't it?

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crepe
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"you love how they make you feel, but not really them"

so if i know that someone has a crush on me, and i only want them when they're unavailable, could this be an example? like i miss the special attention from them? i'm kinda confused right now, thnx =)


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logic_grrl
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I've also heard the phrase used to describe people who are hooked on the idea of being in love.

They're attached to the idea of themselves as having an eternal love, being fated to be with a particular person, loving against all the odds - perhaps because it fits a romantic image they have of themselves, or satisfies a need for drama in their lives.

But it's those feelings that are motivating them - it's not really about the particular person who's supposedly the object of this "love" at all.

So sometimes you get people who'll declare they are "in love" with someone and know they're meant to be together forever, even though it turns out they don't really know that person at all well, or don't actually seem to like them very much.

Ten of the Best Things You Can Do For Your Sexual Self has some wise things to say about this in the section on "drama addictions".

[This message has been edited by logic_grrl (edited 10-09-2003).]


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