OKya ive been going out with my boy for 5 months and he had been hiding sumthing he recently told me. He said he was thinkin of taking a break a week earlier but dosent feel that way anymore. The thing is he said he didnt know why he was thinking of doing that and hes been asking himself that ever since and that he cant promise me he wont ever think that again...I just feel really down about the situation beacuse he always said that he loves me sooo much and that hes in it for the long run(we have even talked about getting married in a few years), well if that is in fact true why would he ever think that? It just kinda hurts is all, i dunno how to handle it?! Please Help... Thankx! --------------------------------------------- "I cant fall apart b/c i was never together"
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You have to decide whether you're willing to put up with the uncertainty. It might turn out that it was a one-time thing, but he himself has said that he can't guarantee he won't consider it again. On the other hand, you can end the relationship if it's not what you want. Your boyfriend's priorities may have changed, and what he wants might not click with what you want anymore.
As a little bit of perspective: it's safe to say that talking marriage in a relationship[ that isn't even a half a year old is REALLY hasty and premature.
So, may overall want to stop and take a reality check in general to get some perspective, as latching unto such a new relationship as your long haul -- while I understand it can feel eternal -- is generally very unrealistic, as is expecting any partner to promise they may not need time away from a relationship ever. if you can't imagine you'd ever want time to yourself in that way either, that'd be more nudging for that check-in with reality.
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