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My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and a half. We were deeply in love and very committed. (I may also mention I'm 15).

But now, since I started talking to a guy, I have found myself very attracted to him--and not my boyfriend.

I feel terrible. I feel like shit, if that. I can't help liking this other guy, it just happened. Last night I even told my boyfriend I liked someone else, and he didn't really even care. I told him I loved him, but what I didn't say that I only loved him as sister loves her brother. I can't lead him on anymore, so I'm dumping him. He said if we broke up we can still talk but I still feel so guilty, no matter how much he says it's okay. Is this normal?

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well, it's normal for attractions to shift over time and for relationships to change. but will you still be oaky talking to him? only time will tell. it works out for some folks, and it doesn't for others. but you did the right thing in being honest. good luck with all of that.

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Honesty is definately the best idea, and staying with him while you don't have any feelings for him is just not fair - something to feel way more guilty about than that!

I understand that its really hard and you feel bad, but just know that you're doing the right thing. I'm impressed with your intergity to handle it so well! Some people would just not want to break it off, and then get tempted... cheating=BAD BAD BAD in my opinion. You might jurt him a bit now but if you handled it ANY differently it'd hurt him SO much more.

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