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Love_is_crazy
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in now a day. The girl usually go for a guy that either have money, car or look. Now i just wodering how wold a guy see a girl(that you will date for).is it the body,look etc...
i would love to hear any advice..

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Heather
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I'm not really sure what you're asking. But here are a couple things I am sure of:

1. First off, not all the guys go for the girls and vice-versa. Some of us -- quite a good many, really -- either or also date those of our own gender.

2. Most developed, three-dimensional people of any gender tend to gravitate towards people they like, who they have commonality with, who they feel some bond to, over and above all else. Not towards cars, bucks and buttocks.

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Loita
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I actually find it offensive when people generalise about women going for men that are rich and drive fast cars. It seems to me that its like the woman herself cannot achieve those things, and i actually find it sexist.

Personally as a girl, i am attracted to physical looks first, but if they dont have them i wont be completely turned of talking to them. Personality and a fun and energetic adventurous attitude is a must. In the end of the day, you wont want to look at something, you would rather talk to them.
thats my 2 cents anyway hehe *wicked smile*


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sleepyme
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I really do not feel that now-a-days that is what girls go for. I know I certainly don't care what my boyfriend looks like, that he drives a beat up jeep or that he's a jobless teenages. I love him because he's nice, he makes me smile, he cares about what I think/ feel and he's smart. I certainly do not think he is dating me for my body or looks either. I imagen there are some girls that do date guys because of their cars, looks or money and some guys who date girls because of their looks, figure and social placement.... but certainly not everyone. I havn't taken a survey but I believe they're more people who date someone for non-superfical reasons. How long would a realtionship based on a car last anyway? Not long at all.
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qitelremel
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quote:
Originally posted by Loita:
I actually find it offensive when people generalise about women going for men that are rich and drive fast cars. It seems to me that its like the woman herself cannot achieve those things, and i actually find it sexist.
I agree; it is a sexist generalization. I myself feel downright uncomfortable when a guy thinks that he has to spend a lot of money on me.

But I know a guy whose usual initial pick-up line is to brag about his income...and the sick thing is that it tends to work. Some people are just shallow—and I mean both him and the (usually very young) women he picks up with that tactic.

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Personally as a girl, i am attracted to physical looks first, but if they dont have them i wont be completely turned of talking to them. Personality and a fun and energetic adventurous attitude is a must. In the end of the day, you wont want to look at something, you would rather talk to them.
Oh, certainly!

-Qit

[This message has been edited by qitelremel (edited 10-14-2003).]


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