About 6 months ago, my boyfriend found out that I had cheated on him and he ended our relationship, for obvious reasons. Even though I hurt him badly, we still talk all the time, and we see each other occasionally. In fact, we havent gone more then a week without talking to each other. At the time I did the cheating, our relationship was having problems and I was confused as to how I felt about him. But after the cheating happened (and i KNOW it was SO wrong of me!!), I realized that I really was in love with my boyfriend. Unfortunately, I never told him because I wasnt sure he felt the same way. Even though we have been broken up for 6 months, my feelings for him are still very much there. I havent told him how I feel, partly because I am still not sure if he feels the same (although I do know he still cares about me), and partly because I am not sure if he would believe me because I did cheat. I usually am a believer in just telling someone how you feel no matter what, but in this case I'm not sure. I dont want to do anything that might jeopordize the friendship we've managed to salvage. Any advice?
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I would tell him that you still have feelings for him. Let him know you are interested in having a romantic relationship with him again, but don't push too hard if he really doesn't want to. If I were you, and this is just my opinion, I would make sure he knows that you understand that nothing you do can undo the cheating. Just let him know how you feel, and if you want to tell him you love him right away, then do it, but if you'd like to kind of "test the waters" so to speak, that would be ok too.
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