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JayBee
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I just met this guy, remaining nameless for his own benefit, we had sex, and I'm not sure if its going to amount to anything more, I hope it does, and I want it to, he wants to see me again, but there is the age difference, he is 18 and I am 14, and since my mother wouldn't approve, no one in my family, besides my sister's boyfriend, can know....which is the same thing that happened when i lost my virginity, but that was different, the guy was 21 and I was 13, i wasn't ready then, but i am now.... besides that....why do guys find it really interesting that I am bisexual? and chicks just think its nasty....? thats all i wanted to ask, Thank you for your time!

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Kara Zor-El
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Wow, that's a lot of questions -- let's see if I can help here...

Okay, I'm slightly confused about why your sister's boyfriend is allowed to know about your sexual activity, but frankly I would be less worried about how your family feels and more concerned about how the authorities feel. This 18 year-old boy has had sex with a minor and he could be in a lot of trouble. Do I think it's wrong for you to have sex with him? Of course, not, as long as it feels right to you. But if you care about him you need to be really careful about who you trust with this information.

Now why do boys find your bisexuality interesting? Because they're boys. They love that...a lot. They're stupid.

For the record, not all girls think bisexuality is nasty, just the girls you've run into. A lot of girls think it's pretty cool. And some of these same girls who think it's nasty now will change their minds at some point.

Good luck,
Kara


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logic_grrl
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Now why do boys find your bisexuality interesting? Because they're boys. They love that...a lot. They're stupid.

Hey, let's avoid generalizing, okay? There are plenty of guys who are not interested in female bisexuality - and for that matter, plenty of boys are not stupid! Making sweeping statements like that, even with tongue possibly in cheek, just doesn't do anyone any favours.

If someone said that "all girls like such-and-such because they're girls and they're stupid" - can you imagine the reaction that would get?


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Kara Zor-El
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Sorry, I was tired when I said that. I'm on a decidedly Chicks Rule bent in my life right now. I'll go get my coffee right now before I condemn an entire gender again
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girlie*
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i started dating someone that was 18 when i was 14...IM now 18 and we are still together and happy.(just thought that i would add that)
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JayBee
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thanks for all the help....and actually its just some girls who think it isnt cool....most of my friends are bi....but everyone is because what person can honestly say that they haven't thought of a same-sex person sexually once in their lives....anyways, her bf can know because he's the one who introduced us....he would've known anyways, since they are friends....it wouldn't be cool with my sister though because we would have bf's the same age...so thats why she can't know....and my mom freaked about the first one....which i understand since he is 8 years older than me....ah my one-night stands are quite interesting....if i ever meet him again hes gonna be knocked out i swear....glad i have such nice friends all overly protective....:-) thanks again!

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