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PrettyGirlSuffering
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A few days ago I was at lunch, and this guy I was friends with and talked to on the phone every night, and we talked online a lot. He text messaged me, and said "We can't talk anymore, I don't want a girlfriend." First off I wasn't trying to be his girlfriend. I just thought it was really weird.

The night before he sent me this text, we were talking on the phone, and he was telling me how his ex came to his work and wanted to have dinner in the food court at the mall with him, and how she was a TOTAL [beast] to him and stuff. Then in the morning I get a IM from him when I was away saying, "you better be in school and not skipping!" since I'm kind of notorious for sleeping in late, and missing my first classes. And then around noon I got that weird text from him. I just replied back saying I wasn't trying to be his girlfriend and what the heck was going on. He just said it was the way it was going to be, we couldn't talk anymore. So I sent him a message back and said, "Fine, we won't talk anymore, if you ever get out of whatever funk you fell into, I'll be around to talk to most likely, nice knowing you. Bye..."

What went wrong? And did I say the right thing? I haven't called/texted/imed/e-mailed him since that day. But it was just bugging me.

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[This message has been edited by BruinDan (edited 05-20-2003).]


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I'm not sure there was a "right thing" to say, but I think you handled it about as well as you could have, given the situation.

The bottom line here seems to be that the guy is a bit confused. If you've never let on that you wanted him as a boyfriend, perhaps he got the idea from someone else or perhaps he just felt himself growing more attached to you than he felt was appropriate. Either way, it's probably not a good idea to second-guess him. If he wants to take a step back, that's his choice. In the meantime I'd suggest you go out and enjoy yourself without his company or email or phone calls or text messages. That shouldnt be too hard, right?

(And just so you know, I've had to edit a few of your posts for language. I swear like a sailor too, but around here we like to keep things as classy as possible. And since you worked so hard to try and avoid the NetNanny automatic censoring deal, I'm sure you could just apply that energy to finding a different word to use when you feel frustrated. Sound good?)

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Whoops! Sorry about the potty-word, I just put what he had said his ex had been. Guess I should have thought of a more rated-G thing to say.

But yes, I pretty much haven't even thought about the guy, or anything. I just was clearing my text messages and found that one, and thought I'd get a few other people's opinions on it. Then again boys are silly sometimes!

A friend of mine after my ex and I broke up bought me a sticker for my SUV and it's a little stick guy with a big head with rocks coming towards his head and he's running, and it says "Boys are stupid. Throw rocks at them!" Not that I would ever do such a thing, it was just kind of comical at the time.

Again, thank you for your in-put BruinDan!

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