Everyone has their own definition of what they consider sexy in their mates, and I was thinking about my own today, and wondering what everyone else thought. I don't know if such a topic has been brought up before, but instead of digging it up and bumping it from the bowels of the board (which I'm sure wouldn't be appreciated), I'll just make this one instead.
My sexy is on many levels, not just appearance. Seriously, seeing someone in a magazine or modelling on television doesn't interest me that much. I can tell when a guy is physically handsome just the same as I can tell when a girl is pretty. Blah. There's not much to that.
What makes the distinction with me is more of a personality issue...beginning with the voice.
What I find sexy is a certain type of diction...I have a thing for slight lisps, I don't know why. One who can speak gently yet possesses a hearty laugh. I'm really into distinct mannerisms, like the way a guy carries himself or the way he holds his mouth.
But above all of the little things like the way he smiles, the way he uses his eyes to express himself and the way he walks, I also go for the intelligence. A guy can't turn me on more if he proves himself to be really smart and takes it all in stride.
I dislike ego trips. Big egos are not attractive.
Another thing is not an overconfidence, but a security in himself such that it's okay to act silly sometimes and do things that make other people stare. That's really sexy...to be different...
So, what's your sexy?
------------------ "Baby, To me your like a growing / Addiction I can't deny / Now would you tell me, is that healthy, baby?" -- Seal, Kiss From a Rose
Cockiness. I find a guy who isn't afraid to make the first move, put the ball back in my court, and just being so sure of himself and confident very sexy.
Crying. There is nothing sexier to me than seeing a guy cry, finally break it up and be real. Breaking down and just bawling like a baby isn't attractive to me, but those wet, pleading eyes and the way their voice breaks when they're trying to hold it back. It's very sexy to me.
Smile and expression. These things go together. Like when a guy has just done something funny or weird and they get that little smile, and you can't help but smile back.
Last but not least, physicality. I never knew how sexy a well-muscled, smooth back can be, but my boy has the sexiest back of all time. Strong, muscular arms, smooth, cut body. And height, very important, above 6' for me.
The way they look sleeping, curled up in blankets or pillows. That has to be the most sexy thing of all, when big tough boys look so... vulnerable, and young. Sweet and sexy all at once.
quote:Originally posted by Lainey: The way they look sleeping, curled up in blankets or pillows. That has to be the most sexy thing of all, when big tough boys look so... vulnerable, and young. Sweet and sexy all at once.
quote:Originally posted by Lainey: The way they look sleeping, curled up in blankets or pillows.
heehee. i agree..except even if they ARENT curled up in a blanket! like my crush (well used to be crush) fell asleep in math. i was just looking at him. yeah yeah, asleep in class. but still, he was really cute.
quote:Originally posted by Lainey: [B]That has to be the most sexy thing of all, when big tough boys look so... vulnerable, and young. Sweet and sexy all at once.
Yes. My boyfriend is the type who usually feels like he just has to be all big and oh so manly. Don't get me wrong, I like it when he takes charge and everything but I LOVE it when he just lets himself go and I wrap my arms around him just like you would a baby. He looks so sweet and innocent, I just want to stay that way forever sometimes!
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Posts: 137 | From: The Home of The Greatest: NY | Registered: Jul 2002
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I was discussing this with my friend and I came up with these: They apply to basically anything (not necessarily sexual)
1) A humorous guy, not necessarily cracks jokes, but we can bounce comments off each other. 2) A heat storm, where you can see the lightning in the distance, it's just so erotic. 3) Kissing in the rain, it's sooo invigerating. 4) A guy who isn't a push over, I can't stand when a guy gives up on something he truelly believes in because I don't agree. 5) That baking feeling you get when you lay in the sun...
Thats it for now, I'll most likely be back.
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Hm...my sexy. All the qualities of what I think of 'sexy' is in my girlfriend YAY! lol. In order of my importance There's:
CREATIVENESS: I guess that goes hand in hand with kinkyness. I love how my girlfriend is creative. She's making something for me for valentine's day, she calls it her own 'project'. And has been working on it since January. I love ppl who are creative, because then they aren't dull and boring and just come up with the usual card and chocolates. Though chocolates are great
INTELLEGENCE: I know other guys who pick appearance over intellegence. But I think intellegence is way more important. I'm not saying that apperance isn't important, or my girlfriend is ugly, I think she's the prettiest girl in the lwhole world! But being smart is something I always look for.
KINKYNESS: Being kinky I find is a lot better than just being an original or the 'norm'. Go crazy, have fun! It's all good
and last but not least APPEARANCE: I love appearance, cuz it's appealing and arousing to me There's nothing like comming up to her house (long distant relationship) and seeing her! and talking to her and just being with her. I love the way her fingers and hands can fit into mine and cuddling. It's a great feeling to be with her!
Personally, I find that a person who is into art is sexy. I don't care if it's painting, pastels, clay, wire sculptures, whatever. I love funny people, so they have to have a good sense of humor and be able to make me laugh. Thirdly is honesty. If they can't tell the truth, it ain't for me.
The persons appearance is important too. I like my guy to have a little meat, not to much though. Then it's the smile; straight teeth, it's a fetish for me. I have a thing for guys with blue eyes and brown hair. At the time I'm about 5'8, so they gotta be about 5' 9 at least. And lastly is the fingers. Long thin fingers are totally sexy.
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My sexy? Hmm. I've actually had a whole list of sex y(mental and physical) and my boyfriend of 6 months has been all of them.
- tall. I am 5'1, so you'd think I;d want a shorter guy. But no, I love tall guys. My boy's 6'1 and growin'. -skinny. Wirey (sp?) guys are a huuuge turn on for me. Not anorexic skinny though. - Can take charge, but knows how to fallow. i am a real learder (being the oldest of 6 girls), but it has been so nice to not always have to be "on" with my guy. He totaly knows how to be in charge if something goes wrong, or if I just need someone to lead me. - a sense of humor. Not just haha jokes. but when we can play off each other and create inside jokes on the spot, its such a rush and a turn on. - when a guy is just sweet. My guy will grab me in the hallway and slow dance with me (even though he really doesn't know how) - voice. a deep voice that sounds oooo sexy when in a whisper. I can't describe this though... and last but not least, - singing. My guy can't sing very well, but I love his voice none the less, and he'll cuddle up to me and whisper silly\sweet made up songs about how much he loves me.
thats all I can think of off the top of my head.
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i agree with the ppl who say that sleeping and cuddling makes a guy sexay. My guy is kinda on the chunky side, and it doesn't bother me. I love the way he is, because he is like a big warm bear that i love to hold and cuddle with. Another thing thats sexay to me is if the like music. I dont mean ordinary music, but plays it. Especially playing an old instrument. My bf plays electric guitar and drums, but he also plays trumpet and piano. I think a person who is intelligent in music is attracting, cuz they can make music for u.
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