Me and my boyfriend are sexually active, but i always feel guilty after making love because i know I'm defying my parents. I asked him last night if we could slow things down(basically meaning just no sex) and now he thinks that I regret everything we did. I told him that I don't regret a thing at all, that I'm just confused But i fear that he resents me now because I've done this before, right after we had sex for the first time my parents found out so i asked him to slow it down for a little bit.but then i felt that i was ready again, so i gave the ok to heat it up again. I was just wondering if anyone had some advice to let him know that i don't regret anything, and if he does resent the situation how to make things right again...thanks ya'll!b
He should be able to respect and understand your decision to slow things down. All you can do is try and explain everything to him about how you feel guilty about it, but you don't regret that you did it with him.
Everyone has the right to slow things down when they want to no matter what the reason, so don't feel guilty or anything for doing what you think is best. Just tell him how you feel and he should understand. Just tell him right out that you don't regret it.
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Another way to reassure him might be to explain that your relationship is far more than just sex (hopefully this is true!) and you don't intend to stop loving him or spending time with him. Even if there weren't guilt factors involved, there's nothing wrong with wanting to spend time with your beloved in non-sexual ways (even if you have already had sex), and this might be a good opportunity for you two to re-discover some fun non-sexual (but still romantic) activities to do together.
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