hey, i have a new b/f and i'm worried that he only wants to go out with me for sex. he said that he's never felt comfortable with another girl to talk to and things like he does me but he is also not experienced with sex so i'm afraid that he only wants me to give him some. help!
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You could ask him straight up, but that's just me because I'm sort of a blunt person & say what's on my mind. Or you could just hold out on sex until YOU feel comfortable, and trust him.
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Like liljenn says, you could ask him straight up. Or you could approach the topic more subtly, like asking what he thinks are the most important aspects of a romantic relationship.
I find it interesting that you're worried about what he wants, but you don't even mention what you want. It's perfectly okay for you to set limits in your relationship, and just because you've done a particular sexual act in a past relationship does not mean that history has to repeat itself here.
I would suggest that you sit down by yourself and think about what limits (if any) you want there to be in your current relationship. (Remember, you can always change these later, but it's a lot easier to think about such things when your brain is cooled off and your hormones aren't raging.)
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