My friend who is 18 Is hitting on the guy I ike and he likes me not her cause he told me so, but she wont leave him alone the problem is that he id 15 and she has a boyfriend. hHow do I make her stop even though I have confronted her about it. Ive told her b/f but he wont beleive me. But I dont think she is a good friend cause whenever I like a guy she trys to take him away. What do I do??
Posts: 3 | From: Picture rocks Pennsylvania USA | Registered: May 2002
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First of all, if this is what your friend always does to you, maybe she shouldn't be your friend any more. If you have already told her how you feel about it, than tell her that unless she stops, she'll lose your friendship, because she's obviously hurting your feelings. As for your bf. Its obvious he doesn't like her, and you seem to trust what he tells you so nothing to worry about there. All you really should do is talk to your friend, and if necessary, break ties with her. Tell her how she's betraying you with her behavior.
Posts: 218 | Registered: Apr 2002
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My advice? Ignore her. If you've tried talking to her and it didn't work then somebody so insensitive and disrespectful to both your feelings and her own relationship doesn't deserve your time. Don't bother tattling on her to her boyfriend; it's not his job (let alone yours) to control her behavior. What you CAN do is choose how YOU will treat her. Spend your energy on the guy you like and on your other friends.
However, you say you have "confronted her." What exactly do you mean by that? Some people are just naturally flirtatious, without really meaning anything by it. Unless she is keeping after your would-be boyfriend even after HE has told her he's not interested and/or she's actually told you she's trying to snag him, maybe it would be worth talking to her and asking her how she perceives her own behavior.
[This message has been edited by Lady Moonlight (edited 05-20-2002).]
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