My boyfriend just told me that he feels "unappreciated."
He complained that he does all these things for me to prove that he loves me, but i do nothing for him. I admit, i have a difficult time expressing my feelings, so what can i do? He already gave me some ideas....kissing him in public (i always thought he hated that!!), leaving little gifts in his locker, backrubs, etc...
Any other "little things" i can do for him so he knows he's appreciated? (believe me, he is )
------------------ "Distance and time do not make the heart grow fonder, but only serve to show he who is missing how deep and vigilent his love lies." ~~My boyfriend :)
Personally, I think telling him that you have a tough time expressing your feelings, but you really do have feelings for him is good enough. I would appreciate that if a loved one said that to me.
I also think that you shouldn't have to ask your boyfriend for advice on how to express your feelings for him. That may be want he wants, but they're still his feelings. That's just my opinion though.
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Hey Star2be17! My g/f is a little shy in that area too, I'm always swamping her with little notes and gifts and things and she always tells me she loves me but she also explains that she's just not good at those things like me. So you're not alone! But anyways, she does do things sometimes, she says she saves them so I won't get used to it, (but I don't think I ever would!) She writes me notes sometimes, about all the things she likes about me, sometimes they'll just simply say "I love you", Kissing me in public is another, or kissing my hand or fingertips. She leaves me my favourite candies in different places, sometimes in my coat pocket or on my pillow after she leaves my house. I hope those are some ideas for ya, those are my big favourites, so enjoy them if you will!
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i think "the little things" can be really important in relationships.
(remember the Wedding Singer?)
my boyfriend does a lot of little things for me that are totally sweet.... like if we are going somewhere and we stop at a gas station and he runs in, he will just get me a drink, even if i didn't ask for one, and he always remembers that i like dr. pepper.
or sometimes he will write me little notes that just say things like "i love you. why are you so pretty?"
i try and do similar things for him. i pay very close attention to his likes and dislikes. if he mentions a cd or dvd or something, sometimes i will surprise him and get it for him. i'm not saying you have to spend tons of money on your bf buying him stuff (i'm a poor college student so i can't afford to do that!) but sometimes little things like that can be really unexpected but cool and meaningful.
one thing my boyfriend really thinks is awesome is if i randomly decide to clean up his kitchen. him and his roommates are pretty messy, so sometimes i just clean things up for them to be nice. or make dinner for him.
it always makes me feel good to see him smile. and he never expects me to do things for him just as i don't expect him to always pamper me, which makes them more meaningful for both of us.
basically, just watch your boyfriend closely because he is giving you clues everyday about little things you can do to show him that you love him. hope this helps a little. probably doesn't make much sense cause i'm sleepy!
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