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What i mean is how do you forget them??
you know move on with you life and so forth.

What i do to move on is take everything that i have of there's like Poem's that i wrote for them. letters that i never gave them. pictures of us, or just them. and i make a FIRE!! just burn everything. it feels a lot better than it sounds. I suggest you try it. its very theraputic. Just make sure to start the Fire in a safe place ~.

So tell me how do you Forget??


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It takes a second to like someone
It takes a minute to have a crush on someone
It takes an hour to fall in love with someone
But it takes a lifetime to forget someone

I don't think being mad about your ex and wanting to forget her was what you were talking about, but I just thought I'd post that poem. I couldn't remember exactly how it went, but I think you get the picture

I don't think I know exactly what you're asking here because I think you sorta answered your own question in your own way. But I'll give it a shot:

How do you move on with your life? Well if you've already gotten over your ex, then you're already moving on with your life. Go out with some friends. Play in the snow (unless you're in Texas). Watch a movie. Clean up your room. Go post on Scarleteen (hehe).

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I've never truly had any desire to forget. Anyone I've ever been involved with I've learned from; I'm grateful for what they've taught me about myself. Sometimes the memories aren't as pleasant as I'd like but they always smooth out over time.

At this point I can honestly say that every relationship I've had has been worth the experience. I can think of one or two that were only worthwhile because they taught me what I don't want and helped define my expectation. Maybe not the most pleasant, but necessary nonetheless.

As far as moving on goes, I don't think I could remain fixiated if I tried. Time is just far to powerful to allow that. Not to say that I've never had a hard time moving on before. In fact, there are three years in between my current relationship and the one before it because I needed that time to heal and do the personal growth that I needed to accomplish.

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I don't. It's funny -- I remember telling my first girlfriend that I loved her, and that that meant forever. It was true. I feel like with all of my ex's I saw something beautiful and special in them that I loved, and that I wanted to be around. I've been in and out of touch with some of them for a while now, and I have found that they make very good friends -- they know me really well, and they speak their minds with me. Not much point in worrying about hurting someone's feelings after you've dumped them, I guess. Anyway, my experience has been that there are almost innumerable causes for relationship failure, but rarely is it all one person's fault. So I just try to remember what role I played, what mistakes I made, and not hold it against the other person. It's really nice to not carry around that particular bit of anger or bitterness, when I find so many other worthy targets for my anger and bitterness.

"You can't stop your mind. The damn thing just keeps right on going"
-- Stephen King

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